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What I Mean By "My Husband Ignores Me"


Can anybody relate to this?  My husband and I have been married for MANY years now, and things have just gone from bad to worse.  When I say that my husband ignores me, I mean that.....

1)  He NEVER calls me during the day

2)  He never asks me how my day was, or what I did.  And the rare occasion that he does ask me, he walks out of the room and doesn't really want to hear my answer.

3)  I can't talk to him, because it's like talking to a pile of mashed potatoes.  It's not listening to me, and it doesn't care what I'm saying!  Ha Ha

4)  Any big news that happens to him, like he's going to go out of town, or somebody got hired or fired at work, or he gets medical test results back.... he tells OTHER people at church before he even thinks of telling me.  What's worse, he'll break the news about something WHILE I'm sitting there at a group meeting with him, and I have to hear the news at the same time that everyone else does.  HOW DEGRADING IS THAT???  I even call him on it, right then and there.... but it just doesn't phase him. 

Friends... please share your stories if any of you can relate to this misery that I'm in!!



Psalm23 Psalm23 41-45, F 252 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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im suffering fron same situation

you need to treat him mean to get his attention. Or do something that he cannot help but notice. Achieve something. This will b good for your self esteem and he should notice you more

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Hello. I've been married for 5 years now. My husband is also the same way. We have two children of three and one year. Our lifes totally changed when we became parents. We have NO sex life. We never have conversations or go out anymore. Everything revolves around the kids. He travels a lot for work. I feel the same solitude when he's gone vs when he's home. He always pays more attention to his work than me. I dont know what to do. Maybe I should leave with my babies and just give up on him.

Yes, I can understand your pain because it's happening to me. My husband doesn't have time to talk to me. I m just an object for him..I don't have any choice or decision? I know my children will treat me the same way.. I m indian so I can't even think about a divorce or separation..our indian community is gonna say," this woman is not good or the wife has problems". My own family will leave me..I will suggest you if you have time watch an indian movie named" provoked" it's based on a real story.. Good luck..

I understand right now as I'm writing this I'm upset with my husband he never calls or text me throughout the day I feel like I'm his last priority and when he is out of town he never calls I often feel like I'm chasing him for attention I'm about to explode

You are not alone . I feel the Same way. And not only that anything goes wrong it's my fault,,when he took my son to the doctor, when they come home he doesn't tell me nothing. I ask him but he ignores me

It's like I wrote this article. I feel you. My hubby despises me to the point that without informing me, he opted to book guests I was to host in my house into a guest house two days to the special occasion. I was utterly deflated. He doesn't see the big deal. They were not treated well and now most blame me.
We have a good amount of property he purchased without telling me. I learn about them as a by-the-way. I want to run to a distant country to find my ego.

Yes, i can relate. The sad thing is that i left a marriage where my husband was very in tune with me. I think often of what it would be like if we were still together. My current husband used to pay attention to me.

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I feel ya there! We work together, and have pretty much been together 24-7 since we met. We live an hour from civilization, (no errands by myself, no classes to take, no friends around, etc) and my husband is diagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder...which is basically lacking empathy, and very self centered, and an a-hole in general. I'm not sure if he has ever asked how my day was in our almost decade of togetherness. If I injure myself, for example, my back and ask him if he can just rub it for a minute to help, he won't. BUUUUUT if he so much as has a mosquito bite, I need to drop everything I am doing and fix it. And after said injury, he doesn't ask how it's healing up, but if I don't ask him about his woes, I am just not caring and thoughtful. He doesn't contribute to anything around the house. I'm to blame for everything. If I start to tell him an anecdote about something ridiculous the dog did or I did for that matter, he never acknowledges I even spoke. I have to ask him if he even heard me. However if he tells me a story I could give two craps about, and I don't respond with thoughts and conversation in his favor, I am being non-supportive, rude, or a an itchy b. I can give him updates about things throughout the day in regards to work, but then later he will ask if it got done, even though I told him 6 hours prior that it was. I usually find out we are going to do things by other people. Like he forgets to tell me that his family is coming down for a visit until after I put something in the mail for them and he gets mad as to why I did that when they will be here in two days. Or people get pregnant, he finds out, and then I don't know until they have the baby, same with weddings, divorces, etc. I can ask him what we are doing later and he will say he doesn't know but then 20 minutes later someone (usually someone I don't particularly like) shows up and says they are ready to go and it was all planned out anyway from the day before (and not in a "surprise honey, I love you" way) If I leave to go anywhere for 10 minutes and don't tell him where, the world ends, but he will disappear for hours on end without issue and when I ask where he went, it's none of my business. He's not afraid of yelling at me in front of people either, which is embarrassing because the few people we are around are people I have to see and work with on a continual basis. Awesome. So short rant that turned much much longer...yes I can relate. And I am sorry that really sucks, because it's miserable being lonely within your marriage.

I feel you, same thing is happening to me, i feel that if it wasnt for me to try and be at peace with him our marriage would have ended a long time ago :( I want to leave but i cant find the courage in me to do it, literraly i am so unhappy because im not even noticed, i feel extremely lonely when im with him, i guess i made a grave mistake in marrying him

Did it ever occur to you that he simply doesn't love you any more? That he resents you and doesn't enjoy your company? I've been living this hell for 26 years, yet I continue to stay. And God help me I work him, too.

I can so relate. We have been married for a year, and I feel like everything has changed. Before we got married, we were happy go lucky, always having sex and could talk about anything. Now I feel like I'm the only one who cares. He ignores me when I talk about anything that doesn't interest him, and he isn't willing to comfort me when I get bad news. I love him to death, but I can only hold so much in before I want to explode. I stay at home and work my *** off and he never notices. He would rather have month old sheets and a moldy bathroom than say thank you. It gets hard when you want him to be the person you talk to, but you have to find someone else to help you through your problems. I feel like I am stuck in this relationship and wish he would turn himself around. At one point during an argument he told me that I was the reason he wanted to commit suicide. He knows that I have had a suicidal past, and he threw the insult at me anyway. I don't know what to do anymore.

I have been married a little over two years and I can for sure relate!!! My husband and I attend church every Sunday together but the person they see and the person he is with me are two different people. I call and text my husband through out the day just to see how he is doing and he does not even respond until hours later, and when he does answeer my calls he seems very irritated. I have to find out things that's going on in his life by going threw his phone reading his text messages. He goes hours without answering my calls and his reasons are because he was talking to his mom or working. I am a stay at home mom and he sometimes throws that in my face that he is the only one who works in this house. I sometimes feel like he treats me like a child instead of his wife. I am so unhappy but I pray and rely on God to direct my path. I am not sure if I made the right decision by marrying my husband ba<x>sed on the lifestyle I lived before we got married, I was really in need of change and he was the change. I do love my husband but I don't feel that he loves me in a romantic love. I think he does a lot of things out of obligation. Our whole marriage is ba<x>sed around sex and then the love we share for our 2 year old daughter. Majority of the time I feel like i'm on duty when i'm around him, I just can't be myself because he throws my past in my face and makes me feel embarrassed or ashamend. I pray and cry and sometimes talk to my sister. The best thing about it is that I have gotten a lot more closer to God since I have been married.

I've been married for 10 years and together for almost 20 years. Our marriage is dull and he doesn't take me out anywhere or buys me anything. I can't remember the last time he bought me flowers. The spark has been gone for along time. He doesn't have sex with me I believe due to low sex drive. He has medical benefits and doesn't seek treatment. He's very dependent on me. Sometimes I talk my husband and he tends to be more interested whats on tv.Last Fall, I met a male friend who's also in a marriage which is mediocare as he stated. We sometimes go for drinks and conversation. We enjoy each others company. He stated he finds me fun, beautiful, smart, and sexy. I
felt so good about myself. i never thought of myself as sexy. My friend then said, it seems we are both suffering on the inside. There's been times I wanted to leave and disappear. I feel like I'm getting no where and had thoughts of regreting this marriage

I wish I could say I couldn't relate, but yes it's so sad. I'm at the point of where he has all the power, he knows what makes me cry and he uses that. He ignores me, gets angry when I discuss my feelings. And I'm at a loss.

You are not alone, when my husband get's upset with me he ignores me and act like I don't even exist. I cry and try to talk to him but he ignores me even more , and the crazy thing is he does not even explain to me why he is upset sometimes. I remember I came home and he was like dont touch me get away from me, you need to take a shower. I had no idea what he was talking about, he kept telling me I had an affair which I never have. I still do not know what that was about til this day and it went on for about a week. It made me feel so bad and alone. I wanted to go back and get high , I am a meth addict thats been clean for 3 years and I felt so alone I thought about going backwards, but I prayed and Jesus kept me. I learned that I can only rely on Jesus not man. Stay strong God is with you at all times.

<p>I can relate my so called husband and I have been married for 11 yrs it seems like forever he doesn't talk talk to me when I wanna talk to him he says he's busy or I'm tired if I say we need alone time he makes up some lame excuse why we can't I ask him we need family time he ignores me I said we need to get away his answer is I'm trying to keep a roof over our head but he takes vacations by himself if can u believe that that's sooooo selfish if his parents wanna go some where he's freaking there if we go some where with the kids some friend of his has to come or he's on the cell phone as he says conducting business what ever I'm wrong he's right lol in his dreams he has no clue I say I am leaving with the kids he says ok do you know he tried to take my daughter from me twice oh it goes on and on he's such a jerk.</p>

I'm afraid that I relate entirely to your plight and I've only been married for six months!
When I speak to my husband he doesn't even look at me or respond. It's like he blocks me out entirely. I'm something of a quiet person and so I don't nag are continue to pester I just leave. But I'm afraid it's really taken a toll on my self worth. As if nothing I say is of any importance to him and therefore I am of no importance too.
This week my husbands children from a previous marriage came to visit. I rented a motorhome for them so they could go sightseeing. Not only did my husband not invite me along...he hasn't tried to call or returned my calls in almost a week.
I feel stupid and small and worthless in his presence. Not even worthy of his time to spare a phone call or let me know where they are.
I'm ready to give up on our marriage because I'm so miserable being ignored. It feels emotionally abusive and I know I deserve so much better than this.

How terrible is this? I can relate to everyone, but specifically with "amoffitt" because of the short marriage duration. I've only been married almost 8 months now, but I can tell you before even 6th month, I felt like WT*!? What happened to that beautiful, loving, attentive man I have been with for over 4 years? Now he is this guy I live with who never talks to me, never calls or answers the phone but finds time to send a text to say working late or something, doesn't bring me flowers anymore, sex....maybe 1x a week if lucky, never keeps me informed about anything - and I always have to find out from someone else or the day of.....etc etc etc For this, I feel like dying! I can't escape in work because I've been unemployed for 2 years...great - I have to depend on him. He makes all the rules, including telling me how to act or put a damn smile on my face when he goes to hang out with the ex's family. Apparently it's because of the kid. Really? I would never think of being like this towards my spouse! I know he's cheated and lied over and over again but denies it IF I ever question a lie...though I have given up because the fight just gets turned around on me. I can go on and on here, but there's no use. God help me in many ways please! Help.....

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I am a man who used to ignore his wife. Then she came to me one day and said she would never say no again when I wanted physical intimacy.

Our marriage is better than ever, and I once again desire to reach out to her, be with her, and call just to say 'hi' from work.

I didn't know it before, but I became naturally apathetic because I wasn't getting what I needed so I subconciously stopped giving her what she needed.

That's wonderful and I tried that with my husband, but he doesn't want to have sex ever.

I'm sorry but that doesn't work at all....if I was giving advice it wouldn't be to give more of myself when I am getting nothing in return....that is even more depressing!!!! Trust me my husband could be having amazing sex, he falls asleep in front of the TV after a home cooked meal and is just plain lazy. Sex has nothing to do with it.

Yes, this is me, my husband dont even ask what's going on in my life. At work I would talk to other men and they would tell me what they and there wives do together. when I'm asked what we do I have nothing to say.

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Yes me to i feel so hurt i

feel disgusting to him unimportant

Unfortunately I relate entirely.

Yes same here

<p>You're not alone as you can see. I have been dealing with this as well. I know that my husband is not very happy about a thing or two with me right now as well, but I have been feeling this way for a few years now and if ever I try to openly and honestly discuss things with him it seems to either get rejected (through his clearly being annoyed or angered by the discussion) or not taken seriously (through his joking or facial ex<x>pressions) or I just get stonewalled and shut down as far as he is concerned and it just really sucks. I get this constant feeling that what ever needs I may have that are not being met are my problem and mine alone and that he would much rather not even be bothered with having knowledge of anything. I also know that he likes for me to meet his needs and that his needs and concerns should be something that I care about when he want me to, but if he does not want me involved in something, I just have no business asking the simplest of questions, or being involved in any way. Examples include:</p><p>1)Telling me he doesn't care when I share simple things with him. If he has no interest in the topic, like the Olympics or me running in to a friend that day or whatever I hear, "I don't care" after sharing something with him. It is very hurtful. In my mind I hear "Another thing you talk about that bores me, don't talk to me about it again, now go away, I don't want to be bothered by you" and that is it. It actually hurts me very deeply every time he does this now. I blew it off at first just thinking it was no big deal, but the more I deal with it the more I accept that people do this kind of thing to people they see as unimportant and dismissive. There is no use in saying anything about it to him though because:</p><p>2) Usually when I try to reach out to him about things he does that hurt me they are minimized by him and then it turns into an argument and we are back to the situation I stated in the beginning of this response. I have decided, as of yesterday as a matter of fact, when I was once again dismissively told he "doesn't care" while sharing something simple with him, that there is really no use in any of my attempting to let him know how it makes me feel. He doesn't care and he doesn't want to be bothered and he pushes me away a little more each time and if he's OK with it than I should be more than OK with not caring anymore either. </p><p>3) the sex issue. Oh God the dreaded sex issue. When he wants it I should give it, when I want it, well, you know where this is going and where it has gone, does go, and will go, for so many other in marriage. He usually falls a sleep before me while I'm taking care of the kids and for bed time (which really tells me a lot about how much he enjoys it or is willing to put some effort in to it, nothing like choosing sleep over sex that your partner would really like to have and enjoy. As you can imagine this also kills me inside in relation to my marriage). Pushing away once again, but once again, can't share any of it with him. So often told to deal with our marital problems alone, only that tells me I am alone in the marriage because last time I checked it takes two involved people to make a marriage, Not one invested person who cares and one who opts out and checks out whenever they feel like it. </p><p>4) and final example and the most painful by far, and one that involves me being part of the problem , I do suppose. I take responsibility for my part in this one, but the pain was just so immense and it created such trust issues for me that I still wonder If I made a huge mistake in sticking around. My husband called me ugly about two years ago. I'm not so petty or insecure that that alone would have caused such distress and resentment though. No. He told this to the police after I called them due to his being drunk and disorderly. I felt I had to that night. It was so terrible, and he quit drinking right after that incident, but what happened that night was so awful to me. It really just broke my heart and my faith in his feelings and respect for me. What killed me the most was that he did not even know I was listening to the conversation. He though I was tucked away in the house and could not hear him, but of course I could, even inside the house. Me and OUR CHILDREN! He was very drunk and the cops were removing him from our home and he said, "She used to be cute, but look at her! Have you seen her? She' not cute any more, just look at her, I mean come on!":(...... The humiliation and painful part did not even end there. The cops came in and told me I should make a decision about my marriage because "he is out there and he is just" cop rolls his eyes, then proceeds "He is just not happy at all it seems". Heartbreaking nightmare. Your husband pouring out his dissatisfaction with your physical appearance (that you never even knew he had any issues with, and you never had issues with because you find yourself attractive and so do other people, many other people, usually!!) to a bunch of strangers unaware of the fact that your wife and kids heard you. It didn't end there though either. After being removed, he had to call my cell phone sloppy, sluring drunk, just to make sure that I know just how hideous he finds me to be by leaving the message "You know, your such a *****! We had a good run, but your not cute any more and I'm done" Then he tries to come back home drunk the same night and when I don't let him in he is screaming "Is this it, are you serious?! This is how you want this to go? Are we done now!? Let me in!".......</p><p>
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Truly horrible, and I have never cried more deeply or painfully than I did that night. I waited for him to pass out outside, which he did, and I took the kids and left for several days. So much pain and I just accepted that we should probably throw in the towel, cut our losses and move on, as painful as it was. So...needless to say, we got back together and decided to try to fix things per his insistence. We did a couple marriage counseling sessions, before we lost our sitter for them and could not afford another one, and things seemed to be going really well for a long time, but this is where it turns in to me being partially to blame for things as they are now. I have never been able to forget or let go of what he said, not deep down inside anyway. He swears up and down that he was just drunk and angry and being a hurtful POS, and that he did not mean those things he said, and that he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful, no matter what, even when I'm not done up or working out right after waking up. He says he finds me very sexually attractive and blah, blah, blah, but the issue is that I never fully believe him anymore, because who am I to say whether it was said because he was drunk and angry (for no reason apparently because we were just home that night, no arguments happened or anything before his unleashing of the rage and hurt) or if it was that he was drunk and telling his own personal truth about how he sees me physically? IDK and I never really will and that is the problem. </p><p>I am not accustomed to being told I am ugly or undesirable. I was not used to it when it happened, because I don't think I am. Men have always flocked to me to be honest without sounding boastful, but I have aged some and I have children, but men still comment to me on my attractiveness and flirt with me at the gym or the store or where ever. All different ages, styles and types, so IDK. I</p><p>It is just so sad an lonely because if he looks at me the wrong way, or looks a any part of my body for too long or falls asleep when I want sex, or if he notices any other women any where or looks at them to long in my opinion (which to be honest never bothered me before because I knew/thought he found me to be just as beautiful if not more so), now I am convinced it is because he finds me ugly. I am convinced he finds flaws and fault with my appearance all the time and just hides it from me. I am sure that he feels cheated in the "My wife's looks" department and that he is hanging on to this marriage for some other self serving or financial reason. Why not. Free child care, maid service, cook, laundress, and occasional sex partner when he has a need that I can provide for. My part in this thing is that I have not been fully convinced of his attraction to me ever since that night and the resentment and sadness and pain will sometimes come flooding back in, usually after one of the triggers mentioned above and then I have to/had to say something or fish for some validation that he finds me truly attractive -not any longer because it's a useless action if I am looking to get any ob<x>jective outside help or relief on my feelings of physical inadequacy in my marriage. It's just a waste of time and feeling and it gets us no where, because I am convinced he meant those words he said, and everyone knows that calling your souse ugly to a bunch of stagers is no good for a marriage, but neither is the "Remember what you said?" or " I can't for get you said that" or "Well, I guess your ugly wife isn't pretty enough for you to be nice to today, what's wrong, do I look especially rough to day and so now it's time to be a ***** to me!?" </p><p>Yes, I have said these things to him also, more than once, and I know they sound juvenile and just like some insecure nut case who can't let the past go, but like I said, I have had to deal with these alone essentially, because he has always tried to avoid acknowledging how much that BS hurt and how much it damaged my trust in him also. Even though he apologized many times and has quit drinking, and teels me he loves me all the time, as he always had, there has also been this kind of flip attitude, IMO, from him in regards to that night and all that went down. I am once again told "I have apologized many times. I told you I said it out of drunken ager and I didn't mean it, you have to let that sh@# go or we do need to get a divorce!" and then there I am again, left alone with one of the most painful things that I have ever experienced, and it involves him and I really just need to figure it out/deal with those negative feelings alone and grow up and move on. "Don't bother me with it" is basically what I hear, and that seems to be the main theme of our relationship lately. </p><p>You know I'm on the brink, just like so many other people. We were honestly so happy for a long time. Very connected and secure with each other and grateful for each and we would laugh and be close and happy, until the last few years, and really I don't know if I can take anymore of it. I told him the other day that I can't handle any more rejection form him and I get "How do I reject you? I don't understand what you mean when you say that" ??????!</p><p>I noticed that those weird, insecure, "what is he looking at now" and "I feel so ugly" feelings ONLY happen around him and that certainly does not bode well for our marriage because I want out and away form those feelings and It would take some positioning, which I am working on now, but it make me want to leave and feel free to be my confident, beautiful and happy self again with out him silently cutting me down and finding fault with me in his own brain. </p><p>Sorry this is SO REDICULOUSLY long, but it feels so good just to get all this BS out in any way where the person or people reading it don't know "us" or me. I can't tell anyone in my family about it, I can't talk to him about it and I won't share it with my every day, in person, real life friends either. I still have not fully decided to leave yet, I have my reasons, and yes, one is that I still love him very much, and that may make me look stupid or like I don't value my self very much but neither one of those are true conclutions. I am like on the fence right now, carefully weighing things out and working through deciding if this marriage is worth saving. Again, can't talk to him about it because as far as he's concerned it is not just worth saving, but he "still happy" in the marriage and thinks I am just making problems where there are none. We will be going to marriage counseling again, per his request after I told him about not being able to deal with any rejection from him any more and him saying he "wants to figure out what that means and fix it", but To be honest the fact that I don't feel comfortable and accepted when it comes to talking to him about things in general makes me wonder if the final damage has already been done and there is no getting back to a happy and secure "us" as far as I'm concerned anyway, and like I said it does take 2.</p>

Sweet heart..I say this empathetically, you deserve better than what this man has been giving you. Maybe in the beginning he did all the things to get you, but he certainly isn't doing anything to keep you either. If he's had a change of heart and seriously considered all that he lost and asked you to go to marriage counseling with him upon his request then Id say give in. If the behaviors that he's construing to you continue then I don't know why he's still with you or you with him. Quite honestly I would hate being around someone who is drunk all the time. That person changes. And whether you realize it or not, so do your feelings towards him.

Honestly, I understand the feelings completely. I have a similar problem with my husband. Except he takes it a whole new level. He will spend 16+ hours a day locked in the computer room and the only time I see him is when and if he finally decides to go to bed which is very rare too. The worst part is that not only does he stay locked in there all day long, but he will be in there ************ to **** about 90% of the time. He refuses to even have sex with me because of it until after weeks and sometimes even months of me complaining about it. And by then its no surprise that I am so depressed and hurt that I can’t even enjoy that little bit of attention.

My biggest issue with the whole thing is that if he would just spend even one day a week having sex with me I wouldn’t be bothered by him watching ****. But he doesn’t the longest I’ve gone without having sex with him was 6 months. 6 months of being completely ignored tends to destroy your ability to even enjoy it when it does finally happen.

Plus every now and then he will pick a date and time for us to have sex or at the very least spend a little time with me. You know what happens when he does that? He never follows through. I will wait four or five days past the time and day he picked to even mention it. When I do mention it he throws a fit and uses that as an excuse to ignore me for a longer period of time. And the minimum amount of time he will use that as an excuse to further ignore me is a week the maximum is several months.

He doesn’t work, we have no children and I literally do everything for him I cook, I clean, I even walk down to the store to get him cigarettes when he runs out. Does he ever appreciate these things or think maybe it would be nice if he some attention for all the hard work I do? Of course not.

Hell its actually so bad that he won’t kiss me unless I kiss him first, he won’t show me ANY affection at all no kisses, no hugs, no I love yous unless I do it first and even then its flat and uncaring. I spend day after day crying alone because it bothers me so much. The saddest part is that there are so many men out there whose wives refuse to have sex with them. But no one ever considers the situation being reversed. And for a woman to be neglected by her husband it honestly is just so much worse. I feel bad for the men whose wives refuse because I know exactly how horrible it feels.

Never once have I ever even considered rejecting my husband when it comes to having sex yet he constantly rejects me over and over again nearly every single time. The thing is that when our male friends hit on me, then and only then does he act like he actually cares about me and will go off on them. It would be nice if he felt this way all the time instead of only when he has another man to compete with.

I think we are wed to the same man HAHA! I am in a relationship of over 25 years with a alcoholic who no longer drinks . He belittles me insults me patronises me , accuses me constantly of the craziest **** and never does anything nice for me unless its a cheap bar of choc he threw into his shop at aldi once a blue moon

Wow that is my husband 100% 😤