Can You See Me?

My husband can't. He works out of town one week out, one week in. We live through our cell phones. He quit drinking and smoking three years ago but since he started working out of town he started doing both again. He lies to me about drinking and smoking. I found a pack yesterday which started this whole "not speaking to each other fight". Things have just been getting worse. For two years we have had sex twice per month. I can lay there naked and he won't even take a second look at me. If I try talking about anything he walks away. We argue throug text. My life is becoming sad and lonely. No intimacy, kissing, hugging... I feel like he's my roommate and nothing more. I'm his shadow in life... Only get attention when he feels sunny. It use to not be like this... I use to be loved.

I'm scared to just leave because I don't believe in divorce.. My kids need their dad... I asked him about couple counseling but he won't go... Said there isn't anything wrong with him. I don't know what I'm doing anymore or even if I have any fight left in me
Daina77 Daina77
31-35, F
6 Responses Jul 6, 2012

i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and suddenly, another woman came into the picture.. he started hating me and he was so abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for whole life was turning apart and i didn't know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so a friend told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn't believe in all those things.then he did the special spell casting for me. After 2 days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are case you wanna contact this wonderful spell caster, his email address is ishvaratemple@yahoo.

This is really scary to hear. Although I'm happy that you and your husband are back together and happy. You cast a spell on him, and thats dark magic. As a teen, I played and used dark magic and cast spells. I learned first hand that it's not something anyone should mess with. You've heard of that saying don't wish harm on anyone it will come back on you ×10. I wish you and your husband the best of luck. But I would pray and ask for forgiveness. What ever you do, don't ever tell your husband what you did.

You live for your children and we will meet those who know your feelings

I am one who believes in communication between partners. If there is no communication between the two, if one talks past the other or does not even listen to what the other is saying, the relationshop needs to be mended or it will be gone. If he won't talk, using meaningful conversation, then I suggest you write him a series of letters, spaced out and explain your side of what is going on. There has to be some meeting of the minds. Your chldren will have their father, if he wants to have them. I don't know how much he contributes to their life with the attitude he has. Don't be afraid of not being with him. If you made the choice to leave the situation, you could feel a freedom of mind and relief, that would amaze you. Life is too short to be reduced to feeling like you deserve abuse, which is what this is. Emotional abuse, which will make you ill. You deserve better. Love yourself.

Sounds like he is depressed about something.

My eyes filled with tears when I read your story. Your story sounds like mine. Keep your head up n think positive. I will pray for you.

It's hard when your husband stops "seeing" you in the same way he used to. I think people in long term relationships often get complacent...they begin to take their spouse for granted. Sometimes it takes drastic measures to make a man see how empty his life is when you're not in it. I wish you all the best :)