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Was It Always Like This?

I find myself asking this question to myself everyday. Was it always like this and I just didn't realize it or was to blind to see it.

In the beginning sex was nice, meaningless and awesome. Two rabbits mating. we had our children and something happened when we got married...The TV and routine set in.

He started to spend less and less time home. Less time with me even after repeated attempts. I did it all the lingerie, the hair make up. His friends noticed my hair cuts he never looked twice never too notice in anything

I am invisible at home.HE is always on the computer, with the tv or on the phone. I am just there. I hate it and I am sick of it

 

escapingthecloset escapingthecloset 31-35, F 12 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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I keep asking myself those questions too... Was he always this way... He was more involved but he was still very cold and I remember fighting with when we 1st got married he was always on the computer with hidden passwords. now its all about what he wants to do it never involves me and the kids. Still has passwords hidden from me. There's nothing I can do I love my kids and would hate to see them unhappy. I'm always doing activities with them.. Just wish he would change.. I don't know how to express this anymore then I've already have.

My husband is completely obsessed with his computer. He's addicting to playing those stupid shooting games. He plays for hours upon hours. From the time I leave until after I go to bed. We are going down hill very fast. He even prefers **** now over the real thing. I just can't take it anymore really. It's only been getting worse.

I feel like I could have wrote this. My husband plays fantasy football. During games he will have the laptop open on the coffee table with his scoring displayed, the tv switching back and forth from game to game and heaven forbid their be commercials on all channels he whips out his phone. <br />
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That is when it is at it's worst. I hate football season. He freaks if we ever have a power outage. I always say yea, I know what horrible entertainment I am. The TV in our house is on from the second he wakes up til the second he goes to sleep. I am the after thought to the TV, Commercials he plays on his phone. The kids will ask him questions like can I go get a cookie and he will say yes even though I'm sitting right next to him and had just told the kids no. When I get mad he doesn't even know what he had said yes too. Thank god they didn't ask to play with knives. <br />
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I told my husband many times how much this bothers me. I think I have had a computer problem myself to the point where I have set limits for myself and stick to them. Not a chance he will even admit he has a problem.<br />
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Good luck with your situation!

What is it about men and their damn tv? I told my husband that I hate that he watches tv all the time and it makes it hard for me to sleep. I also said that I feel like he pays more attention to the tv. Out of that conversation all he got was that I couldnt sleep with the tv so he went into the living room. Go figure.

I can really relate to what you are saying especially about being on the computer and watching television. My husband spends his day off either on our home computer or watching television and then theirs the hockey games.<br />
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We have been married for 30 years and I am so glad I found EP , because it keeps me occupied when he is off doing his things. Although we do go out just for dinner once a week. I am grateful that we are able to share some quality time together,

I hear you. It is as if something has been cut out of yourself or cut off. Your stomach is hallowed out or something like that. <br />
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You strive to feel again what was and should be part of being alive. The wondrous and mysterious and yes even touching the divine part of life.<br />
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I know so well. I feel this way too. Except sensuality and sex was far more intense and wonderful from what you related so far about your past sex life... i know it can be amazing and incredible and fill you will a feeling of awe!

NOTE TO MY POST: Not saying that it was not "awesome" from your words above, just maybe that fact you chose "meaningless" is what made it seem like sex and sensuality gave you something LESS THAN that clear and huge sense of AWE! that I know sex & sensuality can be... and hopefully will be again.

NOTE TO MY POST: Not saying that it was not "awesome" from your words above, just maybe that fact you chose "meaningless" is what made it seem like sex and sensuality gave you something LESS THAN that clear and huge sense of AWE! that I know sex & sensuality can be... and hopefully will be again.

I hear you. It is as if something has been cut out of yourself or cut off. Your stomach is hallowed out or something like that. <br />
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You strive to feel again what was and should be part of being alive. The wondrous and mysterious and yes even touching the divine part of life.<br />
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I know so well. I feel this way too. Except sensuality and sex was far more intense and wonderful from what you related so far about your past sex life... i know it can be amazing and incredible and fill you will a feeling of awe!

That sounds miserable. There are lots of people who crave a bit of love and attention..Guess he needs to be one of those so he realizes how it feels. Very empty. If I ever have someone to love, I won't ignore or take them for granted.

ye dont sound happy at all i might be young but i was in a very long relationship an the same thin happened to me i always felt 2nd best te everything he didnt make feel special anymore maybe ye should sit down with him an tell how ye feel let him no your not happy

I really do know how you feel my wife does me the same ,I have tried everything I chase her with a hard on all the time ,she acts like I do not exist we have 3 children grown and gone 30 yrs of being married a farm and anything she desires new vehicles she is in her own world it is not right to do someone that way I hope to move on soon.Good luck