I Know The Feeling

We have been married for 14years and he used to make me feel important always a gentleman.Noticed he was flurtatious at one point before we were married. but that didi not bother me I mentioned it and that was enough.Can relate to the snoring but once I threw him out the room for something simple he never really came back he sleep on the couch.then it got unusual we have separate room on different floors he used t ocome  to my room sometimes but I would always try to be in his which started out as ours .***was always nice,he finally opened up and the communication was great .Then the shut down mode came we are pros at ignoring each other then gradually begin to talk but it is not the usual case ,been to counsel,felt like I had a major problem that stopped.he skips in and out real friendly and fun loving then like a complete stranger and everyone especially me is in his way ,no calls hardly tto see if I am dead or alive ,I used to love those  calls now it is clear he ignores everyone and acts like he lives alone even when we try to include him always an excuse we miss his presence,but i have grown tired and know i deserve a loving,sensitive ,caring relationship.It hurts he doesn't care if i cry he does not consol only when someone close died.I have hope for my future and trying not to focus on him i am beautiful and a good person willing to be patient but I think hes bipolar .i have to stay healthy my life is a gift from the creator not him ,God loves me even if he doesn't anymore.i have lost hair ,weight both are back I refuse to loose my mind.

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36-40
3 Responses Mar 10, 2010

Stop ignoring each other. See if he is willing to have a "date" night once a month with you. Learn to engage in one activity he like, even watching football. Start very slowly and try to build the relationship again if you want to stay in your marriage. If you give this a FAIR try and it fails you will have to make your choices. You say you are both good at ignoring each other. Problem is no lines of communication will ever open. Are you willing to break the pattern and make a real effort at engaging him on a few levels. If not, you both need to make choices. Good Luck. I know how lonely this can be!

Lady,i have been thru that,i am divorced but i wish i had given love a chance,i met a couple of people on EP who told me about this spell of love thing..they say if a man likes but not love u,ignores u,maltreat u,d spell will help u correct it since marriage is a good thing..give it a try,,mail siradelaide@yahoo.com.....i am mailing him now,,..holla senora

Lady,i have been thru that,i am divorced but i wish i had given love a chance,i met a couple of people on EP who told me about this spell of love thing..they say if a man likes but not love u,ignores u,maltreat u,d spell will help u correct it since marriage is a good thing..give it a try,,mail siradelaide@yahoo.com.....i am mailing him now,,..holla senora