Alcoholic Husband

My husband works hard, tries to be kind, is extremely intelligent and an alcoholic.  He comes home from work every night and downs at least a bottle of wine, and often more.  On weekends it's two or three times that.  I don't think there's been a day I've seen him sober.  In fact, even when he says he's not drinking (longest period reported was one week) he has that glazed-over look.  I go to Al-Anon meetings and spend time with my friends.  I work very hard so I stay busy, and I have kids who keep me busy.   I have noticed lately that when it's time to come home in the evening, or if I'm here and it's time for him to come home, I start feeling anxious.  It isn't that he's mean.  He just talks in an ongoing monologue and doesn't seem to notice whether I hear him or whether I care.  If I bring up his alcohol or our marriage, he doesn't talk to me for three days.  I love it when he goes out of town.  i sometimes lie and say I'm at work and I take a vacation day just to have quiet time in my house without him.  I love him like a brother.  I am very concerned for him, but cannot seem to break through his shell so he can hear a thing I say.  I actually don't care any more whether he hears me.  I just go about my own business, but this is pretty much like not being married.  Needless to say, there is no intimacy.  So that's my story, folks.  Please, if you are a freaky male with a fetish or looking for jollies, do not respond to this story.

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Mar 18, 2009