He's Fat, and Getting Fattermy
i love my husband, fat or thin. i'm 54, and he's 55 years old. we've been married since we were 16 and 17, in 1970. we have 5 wonderful adult children. all are married, college grads, and have kids. they are all are happy. G has a good job that he loves. we get along very well. we know each other inside out, or so i thought. i can't understand why he's allowing himself to balloon his weight. he's 80-100 lbs. overweight. it seems like he's getting fatter deliberately, because he eats nachos with cheese, and a big bowl of ice cream every night before going to bed. he knows what it's doing to him. he says he hates being fat, and hates his "apron". it reminds him of his mother's "apron", and he thinks it's hideous (he doesn't like her, either). he has had some sexual dysfunction during the last several years, which has humiliated him. getting fat makes it worse. but it also makes it so he is less likely to want sex. fat people have sex all the time, but not him. i know that sounds complicated, and like i'm a pseudo therapist, but i know him. even if i can't understand why he would want his life to be the way it has become. i miss G as i knew him to be. i don't mind his fat belly, but i hate what his fat tummy and elevated weight is doing to him physically. i don't want to lose him. we've been married nearly 39 years, and we're still young. i still think he's a handsome, sexy man under the fat. he thinks i am a beautiful woman too. if his fat ultimately kills him, and i know it will, i'll be devastated.