Hello,
I'm having the hardest time. I've been married 6 years to my husband. We had this huge wedding that was very emotional and beautiful because of the surprised vowels he gave to me during the wedding. However 3 months after the wedding I found out he was seeing some other women and when I confronted him he left l me. We stayed separated for 3 months. He decided he wanted to come back home and after many dates and talks and counseling I allowed him to come back. Well we find out after he's back home the women he was cheating with was pregnant:( That was five years ago and I was able to get past it. However I have been trying to get pregnant with no luck and I'm so upset. I've even had some infertility procedures done and nothing. I have decided I would like to foster children but my husband says NO. He says we can adopt but he knows we can't afford adoption right now. I want to be able to help children and have that mothering feeling but I feel I will never get that chance. I just feel he is being so selfish I mean he got to have a child and I get nothing. I'm just so hurt and upset with him. I love him to death but almost feel like I should just leave him because of his selfish ways. If I leave I can foster on my own. I would like the chance to be a mother sometime in this life. Thanks for reading I just needed to Vent!
lonelysoul77 lonelysoul77
36-40, F
7 Responses Aug 16, 2014

Do you ever get the feeling either the universe or your guardian angels looking out for you? There might be a good reason why you can't get pregnant to him as you'll be stuck with a lying unfaithful loser for at least 18 years. He continued seeing the woman after you gave him another chance. You'd even moved on. I believe souls find their mums and dads. U should move on and try to find an honorable man while you're still at a fertile age. You've got so much love to give so stop giving it to a man that doesn't deserve u

Read the OW as they enjoy what they're doing to good women like you and laugh amongst themselves in front of everyone on this site. Please leave him. You should call yourself Kindsoul77 you're an exceptional person to be able to forgive xx

Thank for the encouragement!

Yes I think about that all the time. I'm sure God is protecting me in some way. I'm not suppose to asked questions but it's so hard. I just don't understand why he was able to make a child with this women and not his wife. I'm getting older so my chances of having a kid are getting shorter. I guess I will just let it go and enjoy life without children.

Just out of curiosity why are you both not in that child's life? Just cause your husband and his mistress carried on without any responsibility why should that innocent baby have to suffer? Sounds like you would probably be a great stepmother. Loving your own is easy but it takes an exceptional human to love someone else's and maybe why that child came into the world. 2nd weekends are doable

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such a sad thing to happen to you, wish i offer you some advice, are you still with him? did you adopt or foster? hope you are happier either way xx

such a sad thing to happen to you, wish i offer you some advice, are you still with him? did you adopt or foster? hope you are happier either way xx

such a sad thing to happen to you, wish i offer you some advice, are you still with him? did you adopt or foster? hope you are happier either way xx

such a sad thing to happen to you, wish i offer you some advice, are you still with him? did you adopt or foster? hope you are happier either way xx

Yes, I'm still with him. No we haven't adopted and he is totally against fostering:( I'm very happy with my life I just feel I'm missing something and I feel I have so much to give to children.

Very hurtful act by your spouse

I would love to talk to anyone who has went through their husband having a baby on them:(