Wow... He Has Asperger's And I Need Meds?My husband and I were married only 5 months ago after dating for over a year. I have two children, with my youngest (which is in middle school) living with us.
He was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome last week.
I knew my husband was "different" even when we were dating. I found myself making excuses for him in social situations, his anger over simple things that would have me in tears and his lack of understanding of how i felt and the people around him. He didn't have the best childhood, so I chalked up his being different to his experiences as he was growing up. I thought things would get better and I could "fix" him, but of course you probably have already figured out that isn't going to happen.
He now has resorted to treating my son (his step child) very poorly. Before we were married, he and my son would do things together such as video games and taking bike rides. Now my husband doesn't speak to my child as a result of the following things: 1.) my son didn't leave the bathroom door open all the way when he exited. 2.) my son tried to take the dog out of the house to urinate and the dog had an accident in our new home.
I have talked to my husband over and over about the impact of his silent treatment on my child and how he was overreacting to simple problems and accidents. I explained how his behavior was damaging to my child or any child. He doesn't get it... I have tried several methods of explaining and nothing is working. My son doesn't want to come out of his room anymore, and well, this is where I am lost as to what to do.
I am in therapy, as well as my husband (not together). I have had to go to a therapist because I am depressed, angry and anxious from his behavior. I feel as though I have to choose between my son and my husband. And we all know what a good mother would do...
Therapy has just started for the two of us, so time will tell if the tools we are both given to cope will work.
I suppose everything just freaked me out today knowing that I need antidepressants to live with my husband. Not to mention the fact that I am worried about my child.
I am a great communicator and can't think of any other way to reach out and have everybody get along. This frustrates me to no end...
I have finally met a problem that I cannot fix. I feel hopeless, helpless and confused. Oh yeah, and so lonely I could scream.
I love my husband. But I don't like the way he treats my child or myself.
I am at the end of my rope.
Just married, no sex, and I never know who I am coming home to everyday that I get off of work.
He has asperger's and I am the one that needs meds?