How About Some Positive Stories?
After reading many of these posts I have to say I am so deeply sorry to hear about your pain. However, I have to disagree with these "all is hopeless and always will be" attitudes. The man I love has aspergers and I agree it's not always sunshine and rainbows, but it is possible to be in a happy and healthy relationship with someone who has aspergers. There will be times you will be embarassed or hurt, but there are ways to work around his disorder. You need to accept early on that your partner communicates on a different level than you do, and yes their understanding of emotions are skewed. People with aspergers still have feelings like you and I, but are less receptive to the cues that normal people emit when dealing with their emotions. People with aspbergers have the capacity to love and fully. Like any other relationship, if your partner trully loves you he will do everything in his power to make you happy. The key thing here is that he may not always be aware of how to do so. So spell it out. If you can't handle dealing with his quirks than get out of the relationship plain and simple. I get that life is complicated, but after living with someone with asperger I've learned that it doesn't have to be. Do you really need the drama anyway? I'd like to hear about some of the happy stories out there, how has being with someone with aspbergers enriched your life?