I My Spouse Or Partner Has Asperger's Syndrome
Ive just experienced yet another meltdown. However, this time Im in the meltdown watching my aspie spouse melt, but Im viewing it from the space of awareness that oh, it is a meltdown. This is his second one in the last couple of weeks and it takes place in front of our children who seem to soak up this experience like a sadness. I have no tools or experience to know what to do., I shouldnt say I have no tools, I have some but they are not professional or from an expert on this type of behavior. So I recently have been trying to just not engage in the meltdown and I take a step back and try to watch in observation mode to let it just pass. This is very difficult because he does not stop verbally bashing and when he is screaming loudly he looks like what I think Charles Manson phycho killer looks like on a tv movie. His eyes bulge out of his head, his entire body gets ridgid and he starts moving, walking so hard on the floors I can feel it thru vibration. He walks throughout the house very hard wearing out his shoes and slams doors as he enters, leaves, re-enters the room where I have retreated to. He slams the doors so hard that pictures fall of the wall. He talks to himself loudly and brings up things that I told him in confidence that are hurtful and shouldnt be a part of any conversation, so I cant trust telling him anything personal ever again. He says comments regardless if they are true and he acts like his life is in danger, like fight flight freeze, he over reacts regarding the incident all the while our kids get to watch this outburst. Here is what they say, I wish he would go to work and never come home. Why does he do that? I dont like him. They are very young but old enough now that they are noticing his odd and peculair ways of being. He never acknowledges his part or his responsibility for creating the meltdown either, its like he is never wrong, everyone else is. He cant be accused of anything ever. His new favorite is to curse loudly in our faces. If we retreat he corners us and is relentless trying to get us to engage with him. Ive had just about enough, reached my marginal utility or end of my rope but, I have a beautiful family that I would not like to just disrupt their lives. How can this be managed if he doesnt want to have the conversation about being an aspie, let alone he cant be accused, its seemingly feeling alledgedly like a no win situation. It is my very nature to be full of hope and empathy but this is turning into a nightmare. Any meltdown comments would be greatly appreciated. thank you....
By:
ease
Age:
36-40
