My Husband Is Manipulating Me
34 year old wife and had been married for 6 years and no kids. During those six years, I only see my husband had a job for 2 weeks. I always pay the bill, buying groceries etc. every time I confront my husband about getting a job, he always said because of me he don't have a job. He said that when he comes home late I always call him on his cell phone and he feels embraces because of that. Actually the only situation is he usually come home around 9pm and its past midnight so I call him. He told me he was at a meeting, and then I found out that he was at a hotel with another woman. He asks his boss to clarify it, but his boss did not confirm. Because of that situation he always uses that as a reason not to work.
Also I try to ask his brother and sister, they said to me that my husband confess to them that he do not want to work because I’m already making enough money to pay the bills.
Now I’m in a situation where I have to go to my hometown. I can't bring him with me, so he is all alone. he always send me text message about how poor he is, how he is suffering, how I always get the good stuff because I have a higher education and I’m from a family that have good financial background.
He moves a lot of my things to his mom house, almost half of my things in my house. Now he is asking me to buy a laptop so he can send email and chat with me and the list goes on and on and on... I feel I’ll get broke soon if I keep providing for him and his mom all the time.
When we first got married, he demanded that I pay all the college tuition of his brother and sister (2 siblings in college). Then he ask me buy his mom a house (off course I said No).
Every time I see that bad in him, I always try to think the good things. Some situation I want to help him. If he has a better education maybe he can get a good job and help me pay the bill. If he feel confidence maybe he can get a job. Maybe something I can do to help him but I don't know what
Part of my heart said he is you husband and you need to be there and help him get on his feet again. The other part of me said, he's just using and manipulating you. When you don't have anymore money he will leave you.
that happen before, I tighten my money then he choose to live with his mom, but as soon he see me shopping again then he come back home.
Now I’m in the process to purchase some properties, before I do that I need to be sure that can he be the person I expect him to be. I’m afraid that he will be like usual. When concerning money I always want excluded him because I feel it’s not his money, it's my money he don't need to be part of it.
It’s my paycheck not his paycheck, it's my sweat, my time, my hard work.
some people said divorce him, I’m not that sure because I’m getting old and I don't look as pretty as usual and I’m overweight. Just thinking going back to the dating game, learning men's behavior it will be so tired. At the same time I don't want to live alone. What if something happen, if I get sick who will call 911 for me...why is it so difficult to find a responsible men who don’t like to manipulate the whole situation.
When I meet a guy I never see are they rich or poor, always is do they love me or not. Now it seems my husband is only after my money and that’s what makes my heart broken. Right now I’m just hoping a miracle to happen. I’m just hoping he will change.
I don't have any support from anybody no one to talk too no one to share this. Totally I’m alone.....
Does anyone experiencing the something as I am can someone share something so I won't get lost