I used to have a lot of friends. My overbearing controlling husband has scared most of them off. I am lonely a lot so I join these web sites for friends. People I can talk to about anything and everything that is on my mind.
Becky96 Becky96
31-35, F
61 Responses Jan 6, 2011

you will not be lonely again Okay!

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i would love to be in ur circle please add me, I have a lot to get off my chest and share

Im in the same boat. Im a prisoner at home. I've been with him for 10 months, he's beyong jealous, i don't know anyone except his grown kids and a couple of his friends. He wont let me join the YMCA, public swimming, Curves, Bingo nothing he tells me I'll find another guy. He accuses me of having a boyfriend and accuses me that i want to **** the neighbors the cashiet his son the list goes on. I have a couple of friends i talk to thats out of state and an aunt i talk to, thats it. I was happy to find this website, which he doesnt know about. Thats my social life facebook and this website. If i leave i have to go to a homeless shelter, hardly have any family. I love him but hes beyond jealousy. I stand up to him, i cant let him bring me down where he wants me to be. Yes I'm a prisonet at home and emotionally abused im dealing with it the best i can totally dependant on him he doesnt even want me to work. I tolde he should handcuff me to the couch with no phone, it'll make him happy. Yes the phone is a problem to, so i leave my phone out for him to go through at nite i go to bed before he does dont erase my calls orr texts. Im faithful to him, he doesnt believe me. He wont let me go to the shelter for a month, i want him to realize hes has a faithful lover, i think hes afraid to lose me. His wife died 10 months ago, shes number one he told me so the living room is a shrine. Its depressing everyday all day long with his wife staring at me, he wont get rid of her petsonal things. Its like shes still here. The bedroom is their bedroom not our bedroom im competing with hid dead wife..

Hi. I am a very respectful guy. I'd love to chat and be a friend without judging. I need some of the same. I need some real female opinion and caring.

write me and w can chat.


Well Becky I'm Chris single daddy of two and I hear you...LET IT a real down to earth guy that would love to be someone you can say anything to...I won't judge you....

that is terrible. :(

Been there also, my ex was the same way. Freedom awaits and you will go through a time of solitude while you start again. Add me and I'll be happy to share my experiences and path forward. Hang in there!

lets talk

message me becky

i turned to chats and messaging because my wife did the same to me. she isolated us and before long i had no friends and no one to talk to. its hard when you cant have someone to blow off to when your mad or talk to when something is wrong at home. it destroyed our marriage. now im starting over.

Let's talk

Let's talk
hey ,, I m chitra ...need a frnd to share , I m a lady and looking for true female or male frnd without any dirt on their mind if u really need a frnd talk to me ... and even I need someone to share

Chitra howdy. Where are you from. ? Chat up sometime ?

please i am looking for some one like you

Add me,let's talk ;)

I'm cool, not a nut job and in the same boat


My over controlling ex husband has made me Leary of getting close to anyone. I have no friends. I'm afraid to get close to anyone, I'm so lonely

Well, that's what we're here for. But if you need to talk more privately, send me a message. No rules, no judgement

Hello, Becky

I hope you find the friends that you are looking for. Life if definitely better if you have people to share it with. You can write me if you want. I'm 34 y/o and married. Hope to hear from you soon.

That sounds like most guys .basicly he probably got cheated on in past or lied to and doesn't want it to happen again specially with love of his not ok he suffocating you but try to understand ..I've been that guy and my wife did just that cheated on me made my problems worse suicide drugs didn't work god wants me here.. But for you hope you figure. It out ..I stopped being that guy when I realized if girl gunna cheat she gunna do it and it not gunna be when girls night out or clubbing it gunna be at work or when getting nails done or something with a lie trust is key without it there nathing

yes>> but aleayes huerts me and i think that is enough to stop this **** life and i hate to contenu with her

i have the same prob but i'm the husband...i'm arabic man. my wife used to make me sad alwayes and alwayes search for trouble and problems. even sleep with her became with conditons. i hate this life and i need areal friend to talke with her .

I totally feel ya! I have a similar situation but my husband is a drinker also, and I've got a daughter. This is basically the only way I'll ever have someone to talk to. hope we can chat.

Hey friend hows it going

hi iam intrest in yoy

You shouldn't have to live that way. My husband was the same after 11 years I had no friends left then he killed himself and my only friend is gone I am so alone. Don't do this to yourself.

Relationship sometimes sucks, but that does not mean is the end of the world. You just have to tolerate your husband, be submissive, know his like and dislike.

WHAT A LOAD OF CRAP!!!! You do not have to tolerate an overbearing controlling husband who allows you to have no friends or life. You need communication in your life. I am a dom and know about someone being submissive. What you are going through is not a healthly relationship. It is not building you up. It is not making your life better. In fact it is doing the opposite - tearing you down and destroying you. And you know it or you would not be here seeking to fullfill your needs.

Feel free to talk to me any time.

I am in the exact same boat.

Anytime you need someone to talk to just send me a message, I am a great listener.

Hey all Iam Ann I felt like my life was going no where, it sucked but with the help of my self and good support of good friends I can't wait to be born again !

I hear you

I know what its like to have a relationship control you friendships.I lost every single one of my friends during a 7year relationship and have a hard time bonding with people now.They arent the same as me.They dont understand things like I do.I urge you to stop your abusive relationship before her eliminates evryone in your life.Friends sometimes cant be replaced.Afterall a good friend is the best giveyou can give to yourself.

damn .. i 'm feel so lonely too without friends ..

I am glad You came-out....In the end, bullies fizzle out in the end. We all go life's route ONE time, go out and enjoy your life. Life gives us a pass at times when we are young, but when we hit middle 30's, time to get-it-going. Remember you were 20 a few yrs. ago. Now, decades FLY-BY. The ship is sailing, time to get aboard----Peace, darlin'

I am in a sexless marriage by a woman who has misled me about sex for years... Let's talk...

Becky, I am a retired science teacher who was fooled by his wife that the reason our marriage was sexless included a medical reason. However, last month, she told me that she withheld the sex from me because she said I was not a "loving person". She has no intention of sharing sex with me and in the past, she would stay up late at night and did so deliberately so she could avoid sex. As I was the fool, I continued to allow my paycheck (now retirement checks) to be deposited into a joint account that she controls 95% of the spending - agreed to a 15 year mortgage on a new home, etc. I have always been respectful to her and never forced anything on her but now I know that she forced the "sexless marriage" onto me. We sleep in separate bedrooms now.... Imagine me - a guy - who honestly believes he could sleep next to any woman and not touch her for any reason..... I have been without sex for 11 years and perhaps is now uncapable of having sex with a woman. As I am 60, I now have a hobby of making music with my trumpets and other brass. I long to just have some one who would hold me and allow me a chance to hold them. My wife has a cousin who is divorced (twice) - who told us she was lonely.... I have fantasized about asking her if I could hold her..... But I am discouraged.... I just don't see how I could ever enjoy sex because of the fact my wife has made it an ugly issue that has only caused arguments.....<br />
Thanks for listening....

Hi Becky, I see you have received some nice responces. See there are some of us who understand how you feel and are willing to befriend you. I hope you'll stick around for awhile and allow us to get to know you better.

I can totally understand. I have no real friends I can talk to. Everyone I know seems to be fake and I just want a real, true friend I can trust & talk to. Someone who cares about me & not just themselves.

Hello becky, I hope you are well. I can understand the pain your situation causes you. I also am in need of friends who I can speak freely to about issues past & present. So if you would like to talk I assure you I won't "judge" and I will listen.

I am in a similar situation, I grew away from my friends due to my relationship. These days i am feeling older, and not having any friends to talk to is making my life depressing!!

I know what your going through ,iam going through a difficult situation at the moment and havent got anyone to turn to ,i hate keeping it bottled up , i find it hard making new friends .

I know how your feeling im in a difficult situation myself at the moment havent got anyone to turn to ,its hurting me to keep it botteld up, i find it hard to make friends .

aww its ok if you need anyone to ever talk to just ask me. My yahoo is

I too have the same situation. right now my husband is my only really sucks.

I too have the same situation. right now my husband is my only really sucks.

hey you guys i need a friend you can talk to me about anything.My name is natasha you can txt me at 6627058570 i would love to have sumone to talk to

hola I am so lonely i dont know what to do well anyway

Hi becky,I'm new here and also looking for some friends,as well I've lost most of them and it's left me in a pretty crap place! I'd love to be friends with you,but a bit of advise you need to have a sit down with your husband,tell him to give you some space,after all it's your life don't let him control it and pick who you can and can't be friends with!

Hey – hope you have moved on, no-one needs to be with someone that controlling.<br />
It’s better to be alone than to be with the wrong man – so my motto is<br />
No matter how you are you can always start again; life really starts when YOU start it.<br />
You go girl, - all you girls GO!!!!! <br />
And all you bad boys GO too – Go to hell.


what do u do when u try to forget some1 and she keep popping back into my head it seeming the more i try to 4get her the more she comes up

i love this sid

u know...the greatest friend u ever have is book....books are tgreat friends.....because they dont judge u and they will not let u down....u can write things and express urself by wrting what u feel and u will feel more supportive....

on the other side...if ever u wana talk to me....u can message me..i dnt mind

I can offer you a cybershoulder/ear from across the ocean. But you have to think about where you're going with your marriage.

i would gladly be your ear and shoulder!

I lived that life for about 15 years! Wouldn't do it again! I lived it so long that I don't have any friends! Worse yet, I don't have the first idea how to make friends or how to trust anyone to get close!<br />
I hope my dear that you will find a way to develop friendships just as I hope I will too!

I am happy to be your friend sweety! *kisses*

I am happy to be your friend sweety! *kisses*

My husband drove my friends away too. Now, after 24 years or marriage, I don't allow that to happen. I am still finding it difficult to make friends, and am alone alot, but at least I can have friends without him interfering.

How did you stop him from driving them off?

I'm sorry that you feel a need to stay in an abusive relationship!

I am friendless also but by my own choice I'm a very quiet person around people so its hard for me to make friends.I'm glad i found this site it helps to get things off my mind

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