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I Need A True Friend!

I need someone who I can talk to openly. It's not that I don't have friends I do I just don't have anyone that I can really talk too and I'm pushing every one away as I find it hard to trust anyone at all! The people around me are just selfish, I'm a kind caring generous person but everyone seems to take advantage of that and that's why I've had enough! My "friends" will only ever ring me if they need something or if they need a favour! I'm sick n tired of being used! Even if I try and tell them what's wrong they don't make me feel better or help me with my problems and even when they know I'm going through a tough time they won't ask if everything is ok! I don't matter to any one and I'm getting a bit lonely now! I hate spending every day on my own I try and keep myself busy but nothing can hide the fact that I am alone! I try to be happy n just get on with it but nothing seems to make me smile any more!! I've been alone and depressed for 2 years and it feels like a lifetime! I hate my life!!
Gilse59 Gilse59 18-21, F 54 Responses Jan 13, 2013

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I feel the exact same way. I'll be your friend. :-)

What I am about to tell you may come across as a bit callous (many people tell me that I am too blunt), but I trust that because you're a man--you can take it. First, I'm in the same boat you're in concerning the whole "friend issue". I'm friendless, and have been for decades. I share your viewpoints on what constitutes a friend. At one point in my life, I battled depression. I overcame it drug-free: I changed my thinking. The truth is, most people adhere to the social norms shaped by what our culture deems popular and desired. The question begs to be asked, "who shapes our culture?" Answer: The many facets of the entertainment industry and the media. Look how people walk, talk, dress, eat, make purchasing decisions, originates with the moguls that make today's culture what they want it to be, and 95% of us buy into it.
When I realized this, it validated that my depression was not really my fault--and with that, it left. This further validated that depression is not always related to some chemical imbalance, but rather the social environment in which we live (I'd wager this is the reason most of the time).
Now, have I been used by others in a thankless manner? Many times. Was I offended? Yes, but not now. Why not? Rational answer: It is a character flaw in the "one who uses others" called selfishness/conceit. Trust me, they are not worth your time. Loneliness is what is to be expected-we are all human, after all.
The bottom line is that your problems you are facing are not due to you/your actions, but rather are from the effects of prolonged rejection and maltreatment from those you come into contact with. I think the way you feel is normal considering that. You might want to tell those you see in person how they have done you wrong: a true friend would apologize and correct the matter. A foe will defend his offences. If they are foes, cut them from your life and don't hold a grudge--a grudge will ALWAYS own you. Water under the bridge, man. I may never meet you in person, but what I have said has been as a friend--sincerely.

I feel the same way as you do.

I have seen I am younger than you but I have been in the same place. I have been used by so called "friends" for being a decent person and for me it can hurt more than someone trying to be horrid. You are not alone out there and you can talk about it.

message me. im ready to talk with u.

I understand you, and believe me, life can be better, there is something or someone that will bring light to your life, make you feel wanted, respected and warm inside. Just keep looking, and don't give up

honestly just saying that human beings Are sometimes too sensitive to the pain of this I'm not advocating suicide. and I feel really blessed because I do have really true friends who care about me. but I recently lost my mom. and I get lonely to talk with her and get her point of view about my life things around me. my advice to you to try to find people with like minded surround your life. you get out of life what you put in it. you open yourself up to life experience you can find true happiness and peace. good luck on finding that. life is too short to be all alone. find things that you enjoy. like music poetry or nature. good luck to you. may this life bring you all the joy and happiness what you bring to others.

Live to experience, then use your experience to live... We live in no perfect world, if we are not challenged we don't progress, we don't think, we don't invent... But yeah you need to express all the inner feelings then go ahead

Honesty I am/in the same place right now. What from what I have learnt from all of my experiences is to tell them how you feel and give them the choice. Are you my friend or not? it will maybe put the spot with them wanting to use you and saying ok bye then! I am in and have been depressed for a while even though I have been able to hide it. All you need is a plastic smile. Good luck

man, that's got to be a tough space to be in. i don't know if i can be of any real help, i'm 54 years old, a guy on disability because of general depressive disorder (don't you just love the names for these things that they come up with?), but i can certainly relate to how you feel. i know from being in that space that you can't be talked out of it. depression is a state of mind, but it is also very real. after all, our perception of reality is our perceived reality. we may be delusional, but we interpret what we think we perceive as reality. very few of us realize this or bother to make the distinction, but i have been forced to examine these issues at some length. we are each of us alone; and we are truly blessed to find a single, true, unconditionally loving friend. i myself have managed to salvage a handful of such relationships in my 54 years here, and that only because i'm very lucky and because i have struggled long and hard to love myself, ( even though at certain levels, i still hate myself, or at least parts of myself). the real answer seems to somehow come from within our own hearts.. if we decide to be happy, in and of ourselves, for ourselves, then somehow that opens the door to self love, which enables us to truly love others. i feel that you are a strong and beautiful person. you could not feel the depths that you express if you did not have the capacity for real love within you. no one can explain it to you:not i, not your parents, not your teachers, not your preachers, not your friends. thou art god(dess), sister,whether you like it or not, and love, and life itself only has the value and meaning that you assign to it. please be careful and do well. the rest of us are depending on it! thanks.....e

I can remember exact moments like that in my life. It was when I truly knew who were my true friend. Needless to say i got rid of most of those friends and made friends that care about me to this day. I hope you can find someone in your area that is willing to be a true friend, but in the mean time I'm more than happy to be that person online for you :)

sorry u are sad, and lonely. sorry u have not been able to associate with supportive friends. and lastly sorry u need so much, and no one is helping u. that said.
why is it that u are lonely? we can be in a room full of people and be lonely (we either don't want to be there, we are bored, we were dragged there, wife insisted I attend he corporate party--whatever) loneliness is a condition, one that we at times create. and at times just befalls us, and it is possible to have a mix (self fulfilling prophecy is what it is called in other circles). u mention u are a giving person, somehow this is not reciprocated. did u ask your needs be met. did u minimize circumstance and feelings from u r friends? if u r friends do not know, your struggles, they cannot help u. if your friends do not know how u are feeling they cannot act on your behalf. at times we deprive ourselves of help because we fail to fess up to our friends what we are experiencing. I believe if u called or texted or e-mailed one of your friends they would try to do something even if small for u. try this, all we need to do is reac

And what to start my on circle of trust how do I do that let me know plz

Hey how you? I'm ash here's a poem 4 yuo A friend is a friend I will not regret meeting A friend like you is a Friend I can not screem or yel at or fight with A friend like you I have no worries in my life A friend like you is a friend in need a Friend like you is a friend I do not what to loos a friend like you is a friend I always wanted a friend like you is a friend I cam call when I want to tell a secret.A friend like you is a friend that will laugh at my dumb jokes and dumb things I do a friend like you is a friend I'm proud to call my best friend 1000 %

I'm here if you need someone to talk to!
I know how you feel. I hate the feeling.
Its like no one cares about you until they need something from you....

well im here as a friend and I would like to be friends =]

I am in the same situation as urs, I m desperately in need of a friend, All I need is to talk, share and cry out loud, m too alone in my life and this loneliness is killing me...I need sum one to tok to, to let out everything thatz keeping ma heart heavy, I need a good friend, though I am surrounded with so many, jus as u said, no one really cares! World is filled with too many self-centered people and I keep searching for true relations in such a crowd, I noe I keep failing but I dont stop trials dunno y! be my friend if you dont mind, i can assure u as a good friend I wud do my best to keep u happy at least through words :) cheerz

hey riya, i was just surfing around through this experience project thing checking every body out and talking to people, and i wrote a response to Gilse59, and then noticed that you had, too. i liked what you had to say and i appreciate that there are people out there like you who care. you know, if you guys really check this site out, you will see that you are not alone; that there are brothers and sisters out there all over the place. love is just as real as we dare to reach into the depths of our hearts and make it. bless you all and be strong and happy!.......e

I know how you’re feeling and I send a “hug” to you – I too need a friend……

II know how you’re feeling and I send a “hug” to you – I too need a friend……

I'm also in the same situation where i have never had anyone to talk to :( i do my best to stay cheerful but all the emotions and thought i have bottled up inside suck.I workout a lot to help me stay happy, when i don't workout i start feeling depressed and lonely.I have always wanted to have a friend that would listen to me and actually care,i honestly barely trust anyone so therefore i don't share much with people when i do talk.I think the only person i could go to to talk is a therapist,that seems like the best idea since people will always judge you.I don't want to take a risk of confining in someone than regret it later on in life because they trash talk me.If you want someone to talk to to just rant or let something out i am all ears,and i actually care about people, and i listen.I have always wanted to find a friend i could tell anything and not be hated or treated differently or judged.So i know what its like that you would want the same.

I'm on this looking for a friendship also. Just a good friend nothing more. I'm happy with my kids and husband but sometimes I just a girl friend to talk to.

u still young my love dont hate your life God will make a way..... if u pray n hve faith coz anything is too difficult for him. if u believe he will show u the right person at the right time. Dont be desperate!! keep riding with our father, no good father gives bad gifts to the children. it is well with u!

Like my friend fogiest said. Except one drawback. It won't solve your problem. Boyfriends can be complicated and a husband can be even more complicated. True friends only come once in a lifetime.

You should make a boy friend or get married, simple way to overcome this problem is don't expect to much from people. In fact this world is selfish including you and me too, so except this reality try to be rational. When you get to much nice and caring people start using such kind of person be little bit tough, thats how you can prevent people to use you. If some one don't care you you also show them you don't need them too.Make your nerves strong.

I will be your friend. I will always be there to just listen if you need to talk. I am in the same boat as you, I only hear from friends when they want something. I spend most of my time by myself.

this sounds exactly like what i put up with! its crazy because once you try to talk they don't listen

I would like to hae you as a friend. As long as we accept each other as we are. To be up front with you I'll let you in on 2 of my deepest secerts now. I love to wear womens clothes and I esspecally like wearing pantyhose. I aslo know how you feel because I'm bipolar.

I like to be your friend ,one that you can be open to and share anything while others won't understand you,i hope we can talk soon (;

first of all tnx for that story. I can relate myself to it right now where I seem to be living in hell. I cant get no one to talk to about my problem not even my parents and friend(whom I doesnt know if they are real friends) :-( as u would believe. My life sucks right now but still I get to find a company through rock music, video games, and reading Teenage Liberation Handbook, - at least a little remedy to heal the pain. BTW what you're feeling is what exactly im feeling right now to be honest. You could be a good friend if u are open to hear anyones prob pretty much, and I would too.

workouts help heal the pain too! its my remedy :)
and i totally understand because we are in the same boat.Its hard to find a true friend! still haven't found one

hi.. mind to be a friend of mine..?