F.r.i.e.n.d.s

I was previously in 2 long term relationships that combined lasted 2 years. I'm 23 years old, a college graduate, with a pretty decent job. I went through high school and college with a lot of friends but I think that was my problem. I had too many "friends." Only one of them, was a close friend of mine. I craved having "friends" but none of them really knew me and i never really knew them. Most of the time it was a popularity contest. Now, I'm single and all of my "friends" are in relationships, getting married, having kids, or they're going their separate ways. I really want a friend who I confide in, someone who longs to be known and understood. Thats all I want, someone to talk to about everything and nothing at the same time. Someone, who understands. I'm tired of feeling alone when I'm surrounded by people. I need like-minded people in my life. I have none and im starting to feel really alone.

TheReasonCard TheReasonCard
22-25
1 Response Mar 15, 2010

Oh how I've wondered what its like to be "popular".<br />
I know exactly where you're coming from and well... I just started college so I expect more of the same in the years to come.<br />
Its almost baffling how you could be surrounded by so many people, people you can laugh with and go places with, but at the end of the day, you go home, shut the door, and realize you're kind of by yourself. Its even worse when life throws you one of those really down in the dumps days and you pick up your phone, scroll through dozens of contacts and realize that there isn't really anyone you can really call :(<br />
Try not to get so down, especially with all your... acquaintances in happy relationships. Take time to get to know one person if you can and maybe they'll work. Easier said than done, but you've got to try anyway and you may have to reach out to someone first before they begin to see you. Opt for more low key social settings like a small lunch or dinner or something with only a few people as opposed to large get-togethers. You'd be surprised to find that there are more people like you in the world than you think.<br />
Good luck!