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I Need A Man Who Can Look Past My Disability

I wish I could meet someone who would look past my outward appearance - my hand deformities, my limp from my artificial leg - and see what a truly good woman I am. I have a lot to offer someone but no man will try to get to know me. I have tried online sites and have made some awesome connections because I don't advertise my disability. Then when I do explain it to them then I never hear from them again. Or I send a picture and they never get back to me. I am not beautiful but I am not a monster. I have had a few relationships and have been married twice. My first marriage didn't work out because I was just too young to get married. My second marriage ended when my husband committed suicide because of his brain tumor. I have been through a lot in my life and am alomst 40. I am at that point where I would like someone to share my life with. I don't want to grow old alone with just my dog and cat! All I do now is work and go home. I don't drink or like bars. I guess I don't know how to meet people or where to meet them. My job allows me to meet all kinds of guys but they all look right past me. Or they stare at me. Ok, enough talking about this because I am making myself depressed which I try hard not to do! Thanks for reading!

jenjen316 jenjen316 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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Even with your disability there is someone out there waiting to meet you. Go join clubs, support groups, church and mingle with a friend's friend. I was at a wheelchair dance class with a many other people with disabilities and was amazed at women flirting with quads.

Where do you live? (country and town)

my first wife was killed at age 19 in viet nam as she walked to her office the day after i was reported killed a 1/4 mile more and she would have been out of there as they knew i was alive and she had order to japan to joing me then to what evet hospitil i went to i was in a coma for 6 mounths<br />
we married at 13 out of love we never could have children<br />
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my second love was killed at age 19 by her ex fater a chaplin fixed up a meeting to see if he could bring them bacl together this was less then 3 weeksafter he had raped a 13 year girl in town we would have been married in just a few week

The above comment by pla<x>yerazzi, is a typical man's point of view, that a woman must be aggressive sexually to attract a man, That is pure bunk. maybe to attract a guy, but a man wants a real woman on the inside. Someone who is genuine caring and loving, he should be the aggressor. not she. his title 'pla<x>yer suggests who he really is

The above comment by pla<x>yerazzi, is a typical man's point of view, that a woman must be aggressive sexually to attract a man, That is pure bunk. maybe to attract a guy, but a man wants a real woman on the inside. Someone who is genuine caring and loving, he should be the aggressor. not she. his title 'pla<x>yer suggests who he really is

There's somebody for everybody . Keep your head up and your mind open .

thank you!

Oh, wow, sweety. I wish I could be there to give you a hug, too. I know there's a guy out there for you, but don't know where to find him. <br />
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There are ways for a woman - any woman - to increase her attractiveness to a man. These ways may be a bit difficult for you, because they involve being a bit assertive (agressive even) and sensual, or even sexual. It isn't dirty, sweety, men need it. They need the sensuality, and you can give it. <br />
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If you want to talk more, message me and we'll take it from there. <br />
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FYI - I am in a committed relationship, and not looking to hook up. This would be pure friendship.

My two cents:<br />
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Focus on filling your life with things you love doing. Take a hobby, volunteer, learn something new, do something outside your comfort zone, grow as a person.... <br />
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Often times when doing those things and not focusing on wanting love, needing love, love just falls into your lap.

Dearest you have had love. Many have never experienced a wedding, a mans death or young love. You will most likely find it again. Blessings

As a disabled man with similar stories about rejection I would like to say that I would be proud to have a girlfriend with your disabilities, in fact I went out with a girl who had cerebral palsey and dribbled etc but it never once put me off. I bet you would make a fantastic girlfriend too!!!<br />
Good luck!

You sound like a nice woman.I would go out with u if i could.Its not whats on the outside thats important ,its whats on the inside

You sound very sweet...

Hi, I'm sorry about your situation,If I was near you, I would give you a GREAT BIG HUG !!!!!Thats one thing I am, a caring man no matter who you are(((((H U G ))))

Hi. I am here to be your big, strong man.

Thanks, Soozies. They just don't know what they're missing out on! I am sure someone will come along but I need to put myself out there more. No one is just gonna ring my doorbell and say "Hi, I am here to be your big strong man." LOL

Oh, Jenjen that is so sad. I am sorry you have been exposed to such inconsiderate, selfish, horrible men! Men who would scorn you for such trivial reasons are not worth feeling sad about. <br />
I hope you meet a good man soon, one who is more concerned about your heart than your appearance. <br />
((Hug))