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My Husband Isn't Romantic With Me

By: Tericae
Written on April 11th, 2011
By: Tericae
Age: 26-30 , Female
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    justanotherface22

    For the most part you sound very similar to my relationship and as long as you have been together it is absloutely acceptable to tell it like it is! Just be straight up and tell him i need you to touch me like this, make it fun for him and yourself let him blindfold you and completely take control if he only sees you he will appreciate what he has. Talking is the best thing if you are that in love he is prob ur best friend and he will hear you. Try it u will get results

    Dec 10, 2012
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    kindhearted777

    You told your story very well, painted the whole picture for us. You said you used to think it was humorous and turned you on, and chances are, your husband still thinks it does the same. Sounds like he got used to treating you that way romantically, and you, thinking it would change, never said anything about it. IM not saying its a bad thing at all, it sounds like yall have a great relationship and maybe he just doesnt know. Have you said anything to him about it? That would be my advice, to somehow let him know. I had similar feelings with my boyfriend of two years. I ended up thinking about it too much, didnt know how to bring it upp, and ended up pretty much lashing out at him 'I want you to touch me more' pretty much right when we were about to have sex. I think you can assume it was pretty awkward, we argued about it cause i made him all defensive, and then it was just weird and especially the next time we had sex, he felt like he HAD to or i wouldnt be happy and it seemed all forced and wasnt cool at all. So dont do what I did, but thats the only real advice I can think of, to communicate it to him somehow. I just thought of one more thing.. I dont know how 'adventurous' you are, but maybe getting some sort of sex toy or something that pertains to just your 'area'.. like a vibrator or edible panties or something. Introduce it in the bedroom as just 'something fun' to try, and maybe he'll get the message that you want to be paid attention to more. That sort of thing might be the only thing that works.. Theres alot of feelings involved with just talking to someone. If you approach it as being unsatisfied he may get mad and resentful thinking hes been inadequete this whole time, and it could bring more awkwardness into it. I dont know, I hope I helped somewhat though, i wish you luck in your marriage : )

    Jun 21, 2011
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      Microft24

      Simple answer..... TALK TO HIM

      It sounds like he wants to be intimate with you but he doesn't know what you want. He thinks he's making you happy because thats what made you happy in the past.
      Don't make it a negative, and I totally agree with kindhearted, don't bring it up just before sex either. Trying to drop little hints is only going to frustrate you and confuse him.

      Your his wife, he's your husband, you two should be able to talk about anything.

      Jun 5
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