Abusive In-law5CMy husband and I are high school sweethearts! We have a fairly good marriage. But his family has one big issue that causes problems. His sister is so spoiled! She is in her early 20s and has 2 kids and is about to get married. She asked me to be a bridesmaid and recently I threw her a shower and bachelorette party. I spent hundreds of dollars and countless hours to make it all perfect. As she is like my little sister. She started bossing people around. Being rude and eventually got mad at one of her other bridesmaids and tried to physically attack her and caused scratches and bruises on her own mother. When I later told her aS nicely as I could that she needed to apologize to her mother she then attacked me. Throwing me into a car and screaming horrible thing at me. I told her she was acting like a brat and to never lay her hands on me again and walked away. The next day she said she was sorry but I deserved it since I took someone elses side. I told her I would not be in her wedding or be her friend until she gets help to deal with her anger issues! My husband did tell her she was wrong and owes me an apology. Thus is also not the first time she has verbally attacked me. If I don't give her her way she tells me I would be nothing with out her brother. And that I'm lazy for being a stay at home mom. But so is she. For some reason I feel guilty for dropping out of her wedding like I am betraying my husband. My husband just says he wishes we could get along. But I think my sis in law needs to learn she can't treat people this way! And I need to stand up for my self! And my father in law is the oned who pulled her off me and he pretends it never happened but is mad me for calling her spoiled. Did I do something wrong in how I'm handeling this? Am I betraying my husband?
standingherground 26-30, F 1 Response 0 Jul 1, 2011