Guys Advice And Opinion Needed




I found out that my husband watched **** during our honeymoon. This was the first time I even knew he watched it. I got so upset. He promised he’d never do it again and that it was just a stupid ‘habit’ he developed when he was a teen.

Anyways after that I discovered he did again on two occasions. Each time I was so devastated especially to find out that he *********** to it.

I’m really trying to get over it and not let it ruin my marriage but I cant get over it.

I’m so upset and feel really ugly now.

My question is if my husband really loved me and thought I was beautiful then how can he ********** to images of other people.

I feel like it’s cheating.

He told me that it’s not the women that turned him on. It was watching people have sex. But I can’t believe that. I can’t believe that he would be watching big boobs and bums and hot naked women and not be turned by them!

How do I get past this and  feel like I am the only one he loves. The only woman who turns him on? I need to feel that in the whole world, my husband loves me the most but now I just feel ugly and worthless.




upset10 upset10
26-30
4 Responses May 13, 2012

Watching **** is not like cheating. Watching other people have sex is a physical, animalistic desire that usually doesn't involve emotional attachment. <br />
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That said, maybe he wants something different in the bedroom and doesn't know how to communicate it?<br />
Sex is part of life, so instead of being angry that he watches ****, why don't you spend time together just experimenting in the bedroom. <br />
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Just because he like **** doesn't mean he's in love with the **** stars.

Men are pigs like that. Fortunately, I am in a relationship with a very sensitive, understanding, and loyal male. He understands how trashy and offensive *********** really is. The problem is, is that 98% of men do not see it that way. Mens brains are wired all wrong. They do not think that anyting is cheating unless it is actual sex with a different partner. I can't stand that sort of behavior, I appluad women that can just shrug it off as "boys will be boys" but honestly any woman with half a brain would feel degraded, and rightly so. I'm not sure what to offer up as advice honestly, because seriously. If they're into it and he can say it's a "habit" he won't be stopping anytime soon. Even if you tell him how you feel men are too socially challenged to understand our feelings, for them this behavior is perfectly normal...if he's doing it he will continue to try doing it behind your back with the logic that "what she doesn't know won't hurt her".

I hope you do not go to any restaurants and you give him the only food you cook at home. I hope you do not make him to hear any music orchestrated by someone and you only compose music and he listens to that. <br />
Yes it is pathetic that the ***** world is spoiling the people. But, at the same time, there is a gap between puberty and marriage and no one is working out how this gap can be filled. Thirdly, everyone is afraid to openly discuss what is sex or what do they want in sex, so when they happen to see accidentally the ****, they start to get addicted to that. <br />
Coming back to my initial remarks, see when he listens to some music, you don't complain that why you are listening to my music only. That goes with all other four sensory organs, so the the visual treat is also makes a man feel good. So, all men look at women and their bodies. This is natural. That is nothing to do the love and affection he has for you.

Wow! That is bloody offensive I say. If maybe Im in your shoes,. I am not going to make love with him. Some people do this kind of things that give them pleasure and satisfaction in sex. The problem is you are married with this guy. Did you said that you already talked to him? You must think of something else to make him not to do it everytime you will make love,.like foreplay. To get his attention.( Don't do the same thing that you used to do.)