Pregnant- Boyfriend Demanding I Abort. I Dont Want To


I am 24 yrs old and have been with my bf for 3 yrs. He is 23. I took 3 positive at home tests a couple of days ago, and according to an online calculation, I am around 6-7 weeks. My boyfriend says he is not ready, and is too young. He says this is a mistake and we should take the steps to correct it. He does not want to have a child for another 5 years, but yet  we  never did anything to prevent it. We have never used any time of contraceptive, so I feel it is my responsibility to face the consequences of my careless actions. I'm not ready either, but I love him and we've talked about a future together so I figured I could get through this with him by my side. I don't have the heart to rip this out of me. He is demanding we go get an abortion in the next few days. I don't know what to think of him, I don't know what to do. I always envisioned being married and then having a baby, but I am also a strong believer in "things happen for a reason" and I know that no one knows what the future holds and you should be prepared for the unexpected. I am willing to put my big girl pants on and face this on my own if need be. I know I brought this upon myself and this forming human does not deserve to terminated...I cant go through with it. I know I will hate myself for it and it will affect my mental and emotional well being. I also feel I may end up resenting my boyfriend for it....
stephy36 stephy36
1 Response May 18, 2012

If you don't want to have an abortion - don't. It's your body and your baby. <br />
If your boyfriend can't deal, then honestly... chuck him. Anyone who tries to force you to do something like this isn't worth it. He may just be scared, or he may not really want kids at all. Nonetheless, you want this baby, and this baby is coming. That should be your main focus. <br />
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There are a lot of single mom's who do just fine on their own, and there's no reason you can't be one of them! ☺