I Have Depression.

I have been told by two doctors that I have Major Depression. I don't exactly know what to do. I'm tired all the time, I'm hardly eating because I'm always asleep, and I have absolutely no desire to do a thing. I won't even shower sometimes and I hate the feeling of being dirty. I've had this for a while. I've gone to therapy for about six or seven months and recently had to stop because my father was laid off, leaving both of us and my sister with no insureance. To tell the truth, therapy was only keeping the feelings at bay. I would go there, get things I needed to off my chest and a few days later I would be ready to just climb back into bed and not want to get out from under my blankets. My parents and I are now looking into medication. I'm not sure what to think about them, but if they can help me function in normal life then great. I would like to get the advice of someone who has been on medications before, if I could. So, please, if you have taken an Anti-Depressant then tell me if they've worked for you. Even if you knew someone who was on them, tell me how they were on them. It would really help me get on with this.
RandaJM RandaJM
18-21, F
5 Responses May 18, 2012

Don't doubt the doctors. They're ought to save lives. Why not try so you would be able to know if it works for you? And if you believe in God, please pray. He's still the ultimate healer.

I suppose not. I was treated for it. Hated the drugs. Almost did some damage taking the first one. Got sick of it like a lot of people and learned to deal with it. I learned that I needed to change and I did. I learned to prioritize, discriminate, decide, and do (what made me happy). I started liking everything about life again. I paid more attention to what I ate, how long I slept, I performed a News Blackout and quit watching it. I started listening to music that I liked and rolled up the windows and turned it up to drown out the boom boom rap. I moved. Now I do what I want and guess what... I'm able to help more people and that makes me like myself more. I decided if I didn't like life, it was time to get one I did like. So I did. It got easier. <br />
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40 years ago most of the maladies America is being "treated" for didn't exist. They still don't as far as I can tell. I've seen some very interesting information on just how mental disorders get dreamed up and drugs get to market. You'd be appalled. What if they made a drug and dreamed up an illness? Would that make you SAD? Ask your doctor...<br />
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Last but not least, we're talking a very delicate matter. You know it and I know it. Why then does your doctor take less time to diagnose your very delicate matter than your mechanic takes to diagnose the problem with you car? He only has some parts to change. You're stuck with yours. And just think, 7 minutes later that MD is diagnosing a sebaceous cyst. Maybe you have an actual psychiatrist. Ask yourself if they ever in their lives turned a patient away as not in need of their services. Even psychiatrists have psychiatrists. What does that tell you? <br />
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Yes, diet, exercise, thinking positively, seeking out positive people, making changes that allow you to do things you like, getting off of treadmills going no where whether they're jobs or relationships or out of the FOX New fetal position, that's what it takes to be happy. Doing stuff for other people helps a lot too. Especially if they don't know you did it. It's how you look at you that counts. It takes effort if you're worth it. I'm sure you are. <br />
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So maybe one of us doesn't know much about depression. But one of us is still on their meds so maybe it's the drugs talking. One thing I've learned, you make your own luck. So maybe I'm just lucky. The thought makes me happy. <br />
JH

Be very careful. Medical practices today are largely funded and bamboozled by pharmaceutical companies that create illnesses, advertise on TV, and tell you to "ask your doctor" if you are "SAD". It's largely bullshit. Do some research on the industry and you'll be flushing those presc<x>riptions so fast it'll make your head swim.<br />
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Depression has some clear symptoms. And it has an answer in the way you value and prioritize values. <br />
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I'll use the term "looping" as an illustration. Let's say you have ten unresolved issues. You can't solve one unless you solve others but there is no way to do that. So you think of one, fail to find an answer and the next one presents itself and you spin on that one awhile. Ok, you're in a spin, you become depressed, you are "SAD". Well, no kidding; aren't we all once in awhile... Don't we all have problems we can't resolve? <br />
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But when you look at the billions made on drugs that aren't even proven to work on maladies the drug companies are actually making up, creating studies, and then getting doctors fo sign-off on, you'll know that not only do they not have the answers, you're just being anesthetized. <br />
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Unresolved problems come in a number of categories. Those that if you stop worrying about them somehow solve themselves, and those that are so large it may be time to reassess your own value system and get the hell out. <br />
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your struggling to pay the rent with a dead end low paying job and you can't afford the credit card payments. Maybe your lover isn't true to you. Maybe you're wrestling with your own need to move on. Maybe you're afraid of disapproval or being called a quitter if you'd rather be hanging out where they work on sailboats and go fishing. Well, when you don't do what's right for you, you're trapped in your own loop. <br />
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Take a deep breath, figure out what you'd really rather be doing. Then look around at all the stuff you've accumulated and think how much of a burden it is. If you want to, you could go live on a houseboat on a river and make candles. You could find people who love to discuss books they've bought at garage sales. You can do a lot of things if you let the loop go. You don't even have to make a run for it. You can just ignore the stuff you can't change and be happy about the things you can. It's just perspective. Who you are is not the problems in that loop. Those are extraneous things and if there's no way out, you're not looking. Figure out if those things really matter. Ruined credit, ending lousy relationships, problems with children. so move. Go where you've always wanted to go. Can't walk out? Quit taking crap from people. Just do what you can and realize, it's all just worthless Yankee dollars, or it's more like Opra than reality, or in doesn't matter enough to waste your day on. <br />
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They're trying to give you drugs that restrict your "dark" thoughts. Of course that information is collected and medical insurance companies can use it against you as well as employers etc. Depressing, isn't it?<br />
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40 years ago people sucked martinis, felt like garbage the next morning then woke up and got on with it. Some people figure out the stuff they're all head up about isn't worth the effort and they go do what makes them happy. A one finger salute can be cathartic. Having the will to resist worrying about it is actually a fun thing to do. Playing with your own mind is better than letting others do it. They can't kill you and they can't eat you. Now, that said, why worry?<br />
JH

You don't sound like you know much about depression. I used to think it was just a faze until I actually started getting it for no reason. I started hating myself and everything else just seemed like a bigger problem than it really was. You don't seem like you believe that depression is a real thing.

Medication did nothing for me at all. It just sort of made me feel more numb to things. I did not magically become happier like some people make it out to sound. Honestly, sure, the medication might get you on the right path, but you have to do a serious tranformation from within to feel real HAPPINESS. Not just a drug induced numbness. No medication is going to make you wake up in a different house, in a different state, with a different and much better life. You still are going to have the same circumstances. I'm sure it's worth a shot though, it could work out for you. You should try anything you think might help make you feel better.

What great advice. Surely there can be chemical imbalances in the brain, but diet, habit, grinding sameness, lousy dead end practices would make a lab rat nuts. It really is internal, but drugs won't help. Getting into what makes you feel good about you, does.

The only way a doctor will make you happy is if you marry one and they take you to Europe every spring to buy new clothes. (Just kidding)

Your advice is priceless! I'll just add, reinventing yourself is good therapy too.
JH

Wellllll.....they really did work for me. They helped get me past the worst of the depression. But, there are two things that are not so great about them. One is that I discovered I was unable to feel even the emotions I should feel....such as sadness when a beloved family member was killed by a drunk driver. The other thing that didn't bother ME so much because of my age and the fact that I was not in any kind of relationship, is the fact that anti-depressants pretty much kill your sex drive. Not permanently, but for as long as you are taking them, you really don't have any interest in being intimate with anyone.<br />
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You are young, so this probably won't be a too bad thing for you. I hope that you can find a way to get past the depression soon. I have fought depression all my life. It isn't a fun way to live.

No, depression really isn't fun. It's killed a few of my friendships and some of my family members feel differently toward me, mostly pity when they can tell that I'm feeling down. But thank you for your help. I appreciate your input toward helping me. And the sex drive thing won't exactly effect me. I've never been in a relationship and I don't think I'll find myself in one anytime soon. But, again, thank you for your help.

I kind of thought that the sex drive thing wouldn't be an issue for you. It is much more troublesome for the young married people who get onto anti-depressants.