My School Advice

I'm in 9th grade, going into 10th next year. 15 years old. I don't cuss, smoke, drink, or anything. Still a virgin, and plan on being one for a long time. I'm a nice, fun, honest, and loyal friend. I have been playing trumpet since I was in 4th grade. I play piano and guitar. I'm an athlete in soccer, softball, volleyball, football, and track. I am an artist, meaning I am one of the best artists at school and a tattoo artist. I love music and God, religious yes. And I'm a 4.0 student (All A's).

Advice from me to you about middle school; make sure you keep up with your school work. With me, I always get my work done before I start talking to my friends so I don't have homework or whatever. I want my time at home to hang out and be myself. If you miss school, make sure your schoolwork is your first priority, instead of being with your friends. If you get backed up too much in work, you will stress out and not want to do it, period. This is bad. You should always want to try to be successful in school and trying your best. Study when you need to, and don’t procrastinate. If you do the work last minute then you will also stress and may not do as good.

Another thing; try not to get into drama. If you hear something about someone, ignore it unless it will cause a fist fight, then tell an adult and that person to warn them. Because sometimes by telling someone about what someone else said about them, will actually cause a fist fight. That just recently happened to me just this week. Monday, my friend asked what this chick was saying about her so I told her. My friend got mad and got into a fight with her the next block and was suspended and didn’t get to come back until Friday, because I got in the middle of something that wasn't even about me. Luckily the other chick wasn't mad at me for telling my friend. See how this isn't good?

What else you should know; don't get caught up in what other people say about you. If they say you're ugly, ignore it. No one is ugly. Everyone has their own beauty. Same thing if people call you too skinny or fat. Ignore it. Story; my 13 year old sister committed suicide June 8th, 2011 almost a year ago. She hung herself in the backyard. Want to know why she did this? Because she got bullied. She was called ugly, fat, weird, psycho, freak, annoying, dumb, anything that you could think of. And of course she was Beautiful and an awesome person. She was a cook, artist, and a singer. Everybody that didn’t know her like I did wanted to fight her. When she was little she got pulled into the woods and got molested in the woods. She had temper tantrums really bad. Anger issues that made her threaten that she was going to kill herself. Ever since her death, I’ve been in a severe depression. Suicidal thoughts, self-harming myself, and anxiety/panic attacks. Because of what happened to my sister, I am totally against bullying.

Make sure you’re not bullying or judging others; don’t call people ugly, fat, weird, or just whatever, just because they look ‘different’ or don’t reach your expectations. If you see someone being bullied or hurt, stick up for them. Don’t just watch it happen. What good will that do? Bullying has been getting worse and worse each generation. It’s ridiculous.

If you want a good reputation; make sure you are nice. If for some reason you have to be mean and act as if you’re better than anyone, don’t even bother being who you’re not. I’m one of the nicest people you will ever meet. I listen and help people. I don’t judge and I smile a lot. People call me pretty and beautiful. And I’m popular. I hang out with other popular people, with people that are really smart, people who do sports, and people who are alone and what you call a ‘nobody’ which is not true. Nobody is a ‘nobody’. You’re somebody to someone (:

I hope you have faith in God; it’s always nice to know someone who loves you more than anything. If you’re having a bad day, pray to God. Tell him your problems. Talk to him as if you’re talking to a friend. That’s what he’s there for. He will listen to you. Story; Ever since my sister died I have been praying to God, “Dear God, please let me see my sister one more time to hug her and tell her I love and miss her one last time. Just somehow, please.” And you know what, God answered my prayer. I had a dream on April 26th that my sister came down from heaven. And one of the best things happened. I hugged her for the longest time and told her I loved and missed her. Then God said that she had to go back up in Heaven to keep looking down on me. I woke up balling, knowing that dreams and memories are the only thing I have left of her. I miss her so much. That was the first and only dream I’ve had of her. God can do a lot for you if you have faith in him.

Boy drama; don’t get caught up in boyfriends. Boyfriends will make you stressed out. I would know from experience. Half of my boyfriends cheated on me with my best friends. Story; the longest relationship I’ve been in is almost a year. And we just broke up actually. He cheated on me with my best friend not even a month into our relationship. I forgave him. Then he tried accusing me of cheating, when I wasn’t so he finally said sorry for thinking that about a month and a half ago. Then we just broke up on May 10th because he got tired of guys wanting to date me and worrying about them. He also wanted sex bad, but I kept telling him no. He’s also a virgin. He said he can wait. Having a boyfriend wasn’t mixing well with my depression. This is why my parents say I can’t have a boyfriend. Because I wouldn’t take him back a few days later on May 12th, he cut himself and said he wanted to kill himself for the 3rd time within the year we dated. He made me cry and think it was all my fault why he wanted to take his life and cut himself, like I did just 2-3 weeks ago because of my depression. It sucks when 3 guys that are in love with you, say they want to die because you won’t take them and even write you a goodbye letter. Yeah, that’s happened to me all in the same week. Can you see why boyfriends aren’t a good thing sometimes? If you’re allowed to date, just make sure you’re stable and the person who you like is stable. I am not stable right now. I’m going on antidepressants and seeing a psychiatrist. If you are stable, just try to be happy and the best you can. Don’t listen to rumors about your boyfriend or the guy you like. If you have any suspicions, ask him yourself. Because you’re so young, don’t get too committed to that person. I can understand when you’re in 8th grade and up, but you’re just going into middle school. If you’re not interested in boys, then good for you! Most of them want sex and etc. They’re desperate for a girl. But not all of them. My ex is actually a very good guy. I believe he’s in love with me. He treated me like a princess. But I know deep down inside that having a boyfriend, is not an option right now because of my Depression.

I hope all this helped you! If you want anymore advice and tips, just message me! I would absolutely love to help you as best as I can (:
KayKay12497 KayKay12497
13-15, F
6 Responses May 20, 2012

Why are people such ********, especially in your sister's case?

WOW THIS IS REALLY HELPFUL THANKS ALOT I HAVE TO BFF'S THAT ONE KILLED HER SELF WHEN SHE WAS 9 AND A RECENT FRIEND THAT CUTS HER SELF I HELPED HER TO STOP AND FOR THE SAME REASONS CALLING NAMES I JUST DON'T GET IT WHY CANT PEOPLE STOP BEING MEAN I THINK THAT , WELL MOST MEAN PEOPLE ARE POPULAR , AND WHEN THEY DO MEAN THINGS TO PEOPLE THEY BASICLY MURDERED SOMEONE CUZ WHO'S FUALT IS IT THAT YOU CALL THE PERSONS NAMES OR MADE THE LIFES MISRABLE FOR THEM THEY JUS T COULDNT TAKE IT YOU CUASED THEM TO KILL OR HARM THEM SELFS THEN WHEN U HEAR AT SCHOOL THAT SOMEONE DIED OR HANG THEM SELF UR ASK WHEN WERE WHO AND OF COURES WHY . UT ENYWAYS THANKS FOR THE ADVIDE YOURE REALLY COOL AND I HOPE .GOD ANSWERS LL UR PRAYERS AOUT YOUR SISTER IN SO SRRY TO HERE THAT UT I KNOW YOUR HAPPY THAT SHES OK IN GODS ANDS ALWAYS AND KEEP ON DREAMING HEVEALY DREAMS IN JADA,IM IN 6TH GRADE NOW IN 7TH

you are not going to like this<br />
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dump the guy he is using youa and playing head games high schoolis so inporatnt today it is not even funny <br />
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if you have crossed the line with him make sure you get checked for gifts that keep on giving

We are already broken up. Been for a week now. And thank you for the advice (:

and kaykay12497 please add me

@miss penny please talk to me

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge,<br />
If you believe in God, you will see your sister again, God listens to prayer, and answers in time, just wait and have a belief becuase God loves you.<br />
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practise F.A.I.T.H. <br />
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f- FORWARD<br />
a- ALL<br />
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t- TO<br />
h- HEAVEN

I have prayed to the Lord tons of times since she died to have one last chance to tell her I love and miss her and hug her. In my dream that I had on 4/26/12, that's exactly what happened. Read my dream. Thank you (: