Sexually Confused And In Love

Hey. I'm a 19 yo girl with the maturity of a 30 yo. I have a colleague (known her for 5 months) who I've fallen head over heels for. I never thought I could feel this way about someone.
She's 30 and a lesbian. I thought I was straight, but now I'm thinking bi. I find guys attractive, but I could see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl.
Unless I'm misinterpreting, I think she casually flirts with me, and I do the same, but I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm straight.
I haven't said anything to her, but the other day we talked about relationships. She's in a relationship. She seems to be happy, and I would never want to mess that up or be a home-wrecker, but sometimes I think she's looking for something different.

My question is, should I let her know how l feel? I want her to be happy, but it sucks not being able to tell anyone, especially because I'm sexually confused and my family isn't necessarily gay-friendly.

CDawn37 CDawn37
1 Response May 20, 2012

If she is a lesbian and your friend, she's the perfect person to talk to about your sexuality. <br />
If she is looking for something different (i.e. you), maybe you could flirt back and see how she responds. <br />
You shouldn't directly interfere with her relationship as that could lead to other problems later on, but confiding in her about your sexual identity could change things.