Wife Disrespected Me

Long story short my brother in law owes me 500 dollars. He decided not to pay me. I let it go but I told my wife I never want him to place a foot in my house. It has been a year and since we had an addition to my family my wife decided it was ok to invite him without my consent. I am really pissed off.
Be50 Be50
26-30
1 Response Nov 28, 2012

Ick...

Your wife needs to communicate these things with you and you need to understand her family is her family. I wouldn't let $500 come between me and any of my family members... it sounds like there may be something else going on besides just the money.

When this went down a year ago, is it possible that your decision not to allow him into your home may have been presented to your wife in such a way as to make her feel as though she was being asked to choose between her husband and her brother? That is an impossible situation. I understand that you are still angry about what happened. I would be too. To be clear--you only said he couldn't come to your home, not that she couldn't have anything to do with him, right? It may have been easier to just say you wouldn't lend him any more money, no matter what... because now there is a continuing grudge that at this point just isn't necessary.