I Need Adviceim 26. Im having a problem with my boyfriend. its been 4 years and 10 months im with my bf (M). All this while i was happy with him in this relationship. but things changed a lot when i moved to johor early this year. i got a job there and my bf is the one who force me to go for this job. he was a very loving, caring, and concern. but past 4 months things changed when i talk about my wedding.he cheated me n lied to me when he went for a company meeting with his working colleague and stayed with her one night. she is a girl. i felt very unsecured. i fight with him he gave me promises that nothing happen between them. things was much better for awhile. i ask him to register me so that i can get transfer to the place he is. but from that moment he started to fight quarrel and everything is upside down in this relationship. he is avoiding me to the maximum. he is hurting me. its been twice in this four months he has shown me that his friends including the working colleague(the girl), family are more important then me. i came all the way to spend one week with him but he just scream at me and make me feel really bad. i love him so much i want him so much i want to marry him. but he seems to be a monster when i talk about wedding.now i don't talk about it already but he is not calling me as much as he used to be, he is smsing as much as he use to. i call he wont answer or ended up in fighting. this been happening for past 4 months. he was not like this earlier. im being very sincere with him a don't even have any normal boy friends.i did all kind of sacrifice just for him. but he is treating like a ****. i already talk to him about what i feel how much he hurts me but after a week he don't bother about it. im against my family just for him. i convince everyone in my family for him. but i cant convince him to register him now i cant even convince him to be with me. im not sure whether he is sincere with me or not. now he is totally 100% different men compare to past 4 months. i don't wan to go through this process again with another guy. i even feel sometime its better to be single then being in this relationship. i cant share him with anyone. whatever mistake he do he will neva commit the mistake but he will blame me for what he is doin.he wil say he did it because of me. for an example i came back for him from johor on sat morning. he ask me to go out with him as early as 8 am cause he have to service his car and he wants me to accompany him. i told him im very tired and i want to take rest. the whole day i neva go out of my house and i was just at home. he konws that. on sunday he suppose to meet me but sudenly he call and said he have to go to his brothers house and shoping and play football and go for function. so i went to his brothers place jus to see him cause its been long i didn't see him. the moment he see me he scream and shout at me and ask me to leave cause he don't have time for me and he got better things to do. when i asked y he is behaving like this he answered i didn't want to be with him on saturday morning for the car service so he dont wish to see me. that really hurts me a lot. he break my heart to thousand pieces. its always its always me is the one who have to go after him. even i do the mistake o he does i have to go apologize . when i ask him why he is treating me like this he always says that its me who go after him. he always says that only i need him. if i ask what he will do if i leave him.he answer is be single for a while get married with other girl and continue his life. he always says that i cant leave him and go whenever i want and he wont stop or bother about it. he says that he will be with me until im sincere if i found someone already means he will lead his life. i cant share this to my friends or family members cause im scared if i share this with them they wont respect him if ,if things get better between us. we are also in physical relationship since the first year. but from the begining till now he always says that he will go to prostitute if i dnt give him what he wants. all the while i listen to him cause i want him to be with me cause i cannot share him with other girl. but im afraid he will go for one soon. he promised me that he neva been with another girl other then me but im not sure how sure it is. we are suppose to go for a 2 day holiday jus now he call me whether the plan is on o not. i told him i dnot want cause he is treating me like a third person. until now no calls from him. i call him he didnt bother to answer. lately he is hurting me too much. i don't know how to express my feeling to him after this im jus tired of getting hurt. please give some advice.
suzan26 26-30 12 Responses 0 Dec 15, 2012