I am 22 years old and I have no idea what to do with my life. I have had so many jobs and never lasted. At each of them, I eventually stopped showing up. I recently just moved back in with my parents. I have a fiance, and a 3 year old son. My fiance lives with his parents so I dont see him much because he works crazy hours. Lately I have had some serious issues with Anxiety and what I believe to be panic attacks. I went to school to do hair and got a job in a salon working for about a year, (longest ive ever kept a job) I just quit when I moved back in with my parents. I work for my dad currently, he owns a general contracting company. I have been SO depressed lately, to the point that I feel sick and cannot function to get through the day(which is very hard when you have a child dependent on you). I feel like everyone around me has the life in order, and is either going to school or already did and they have their career set and know exactly what they need to do to help them selves. I feel like I am going no where in life and often wonder what my fiance even sees in me. I feel so unmotivated and un ambitious because I have nothing to look forward to. I want to go to college and get a degree, but I get so overwhelmed even having the thought of the money it will cost me, the time it will take, and going to school doesnt pay you, you pay them, so it makes me worried about someone needed to watch my son while my fiance works and i juggle work and school. I am so lost. How do i even figure out what i want to do, and stick with it? Everything that sounds pretty interesting to me, i end up doing research and find some kind of deal breaker..i need help. If anyone has good encouraging words or advise, or just to tell me i am not the only one, please tell me. thank you for reading.
1992ann 1992ann
22-25, F
3 Responses Aug 20, 2014

U need skills or a hobby than u need to show those skills to the internet and than u get sponsors or u get a job according to those skills.(and u should have used them in both high school and college)

Your depression and anxiety sound like an ongoing and constant struggle--I'm sorry you've had to deal with this! I suggest you seek professional help. A therapist could really help you work through these struggles, find healthy coping mechanisms, and live a happier life. In combination with therapy, medication can work wonders. I've struggled with depression and anxiety myself, but I've been on Zoloft (an anti-depressant) for a number of years, and it's really helped me deal with my sadness.

I agree. It sounds like anxiety and or depression may be the culprit as to why you are unable to focus and hold a job. Rantingcuriosity has good advice. See a therapist. Good luck.

I can't offer you much in the way of advice, but I will say that the feelings that you describe are the kinds of feelings that forge some of the best human beings I've ever known once they've gotten through them.

No one can tell you what to do with your life, but maybe you're putting yourself under too much pressure to figure it out on some kind of schedule?

Also, try talking to your parents or grandparents. People who are older and have been through some of the things you've been through and know you in a way that I don't and never will.