I Really Need Advice About This Guy...

I've written about him before, but not gotten much response.  What I want to know is, should I be blunt and just say that I have a personal question to ask him?  I need to know if our relationship 9 years ago meant anything to him because sometimes he acts like it does, and sometimes he doesn't.  Should I also be so blunt as to tell him that I was in love with him back then and haven't gotten over him?  He's got a girlfriend now, blah blah blah...  I need to know the answers to these questions. 

Licorice Licorice
31-35, F
40 Responses Sep 2, 2007

What's the worst that could happen if you ask? I think it would be a good idea for you to ask him. This way you wont always have to wonder what his thoughts were.

Yes, yes, yes Tell him if you'll be happier. From my life experience I want to express to you that in life you must try to live in the present and try not to ever look back, looking ahead will always make you stronger and as you repeat this lesson it will get easier. This guy wants awareness and he's getting loads of it to you, it makes him feel powerful with respect to his ego. If you exercise this lesson things will get much brighter then they are now.Ego is a big factor with folks, some do awful things to build it.Be brave, dear!

In all honesty you already know the answers to your questions.

If your feelings are still there...from 9 years, then I feel you should just be blunt about it. Otherwise, you'll have it all bottled up inside. Also, asking will help you get past it and move on...if, of course, that's what you want to do.

I know 9 years is long time but there is a reason why you are appart find someone else and start loving again :)

9 years seems like a long time to hold on to something. Have you dated other people? sometimes things are better left undone.. for whatever reason it didn't work the first time. so it might not the second time

this will probably sound cruel, but Im currently back with a guy who I could never get over, if you read my other stories, one called confused and confounded, you'll see how it's going, I would suggest getting an answer, to answer your own curiosity, but never expecting to get back together with the guy, for it makes a strange situation, and they take it for granted that because you loved them forever, they can essentially do whatever they want. So if you're wanting more than just an answer from this guy, be careful.

Why wouldnt you?

I asked him and he said he had feelings for me a long time ago, and left it at that.

i think you should ask him...at the end of the day its the easiest and best way to get the answers. <br />
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i don't see why you shouldnt ask him to be honest <br />
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