Ok, here it goes. I will try to make this short and only put in the information that is needed; My wife and I have been married for 10 years and have one child (9 yrs old). We are an interracial couple and have probably experienced some of the worst people through the years. In the beginning, sex was amazing. We too experienced the same as most married couples probably experience the bedroom slow down after some time.

But for the past 3 years it was really slowing down. I thought maybe she was just going through something and didn't want to pressure her; it will come back I thought. About a year and a half ago she started refusing to be intimate, likes to be massaged ( shoulders and back only), doesn't want me to touch her anywhere else.

For the past 9 months our marriage has been completely sexless. She doesn't want to talk about it, really will not discuss the subject at all!! I love her with all of my heart.

She appears to be perfectly happy with the environment she has created. I on the other hand am not. I unfortunately have considered finding a friend with benefits kind of thing. But like I said, I love my wife and love my little family. I don't want to risk losing it for an affair, but something has go to change.

Now you come in, what should I do?
aloneInside47 aloneInside47
46-50, M
Aug 16, 2014