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I Blame Myself

My husband feels that because he does so much for me around the house, he shouldn't have to provide any type of emotional support or intimacy.  This was not the case before we got married.  He also feels that I shouldn't look elsewhere to have this need filled.  He feels that I need to work with my counselor to supress the need for an emotional connection.  I blame myself because I am allowing it to continue this way.  I find joy in my career and my time on the road.  I know that eventually I will just get fed up and leave him.  It's inevitable. 

snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2008

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I'm sorry for what you're going through.<br />
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How will you know when it is time to leave? <br />
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Are you still hoping it'll get better, or have you just given up?

You don't need to deal with someone like that! My husband is passive aggressive in the worst way, only has been three years out of the 19,that this part of him came out!<br />
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Speaking for my self as well! We as women don't need to have a man treat us like a piece of furniture, excuses like children if you ask me! <br />
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And telling you to go else where? And if you did you would face the consequences as well! Believe me! <br />
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I don't know what happened to the man I married! And never will!! But after two years of being held on a string, expressing my needs of hugs, kisses, compliments, sex....... He made sure to punish me and take them all away! <br />
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If it wasn't for money, lack of, and the terrible housing market! I would be gone! I am done!!!!!!! <br />
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email me sometime..............

I hear you on this one!! I dont get ANY emotional or sexual intimacy in my marriage.. I feel like I have a roomate instead of a husband most of the time.. It leaves you feeling so lonely inside and longing for something to fill that void. ...sometimes I could just scream~

Sounds a bit like my hubby. He's a good guy, good dad, does a lot around the house but, never spontaneously hugs or kisses me. Sometimes I feel like I'm starving.