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Had It But Lost It

After being married 28 years I dont have emotional intimcy and I miss it. How, why? Good question...My wife became so ill she lives in a nursing home. shes been gone since April 22, 2011.  Yeah she calls i visit but shes not all there. And that placeisnot exactly inducive to intimacy.

I dont need a sex partner I need someone to share my intimate thoughts and feelings with.  Someone to hug you know? I cant even date cause I'm married and my 12year old daughter naturally doesn exactly relish the thought of me dating.  Divorce is currently not possible cause of some financial issues.  Maybe someday. Who would date someone in my situation?

i will have it again someday I know but really  miss it now.

French378 French378 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 23, 2012

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You and your wife may come to an agreement.<br />
But beware of two things, the heart, its hard to manage emotions once the ball is rolling.<br />
And you daughter, I dont think there is a chance in hell that a 12 year old would see you dating as anything other than a betrayal of her mom.<br />
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I so understand your need, and I feel for you.<br />
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Best of luck.

Yes you are right. Any woman I talk to even she has something bad to say about them. Yup she's one of my biggest issues as far As moving on if that's even possible.

It's a really a tough situation. It's been since April 2011 she's been gone. Things have a way of working themselves out for me but it seems to be getting more difficult since we moved back to our repaired firehouse. Maybe cause now it's the finaly and this is it. As opposed to our residence pending.

I appreciate your reponse. -_-

Also my wife still thinks she will get out one day and we'll live happily ever after . Sobtheyvwill be no agreement. I previously told her it was over but it never sank on . Now I don't have the heart. Can't divorce right now for financial reasons.