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Pathetic???

I need someone i can tell anything to and not be judged, ridiculed or laughed at

Someone i can let my guard down with and not regret it

Someone i can tell my dreams hopes and fears to and not be tormented

Someone who knows just when and how to hold me

Someone who won't always make me cry

Someone who won't pretend to be there for me then just leave

Someone who'll always be on my side

Someone who can and will listen

Someone my heart feels safe with

Someone who just gets me and is there anyway

Something that is too much of a pipe dream

tulick tulick 31-35, F 69 Responses Jun 18, 2008

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I don't think its a pipe dream. It has to be someone who's very smart so they can deductively rationalize what you are feeling based on your body language knowledge of you. Personally that's impossible for me, in fact I'm probably the opposite, if someone let their guard down I take advantage of it, if someone's no longer useful to me I won't be there for them. So look on the bright side tulick. You may not have met the love of your life yet, but at least you aren't stuck with me.

better known as a complete day dream

Someone who I can be angry with but knows that even in my anger I need a hug

finaly someone who understood what this story was about and that it was not about finding a romantic partner

Its not pathetic it just seems too impossible to find those attributes. I wish all the same things you do. Let's just not give up even though that's easier said.

me too :'(

no kidding

I like what u wrote and I think that most people aspire to what u said. I know I do. Very few people "get" me and those who do I hang on to. (Not in a clingy way, just an appreciative way) In an emotional relationship that scenario would be ideal, but ideal is for the lucky few.

if only that were true

It will happen, if this is what you desire, this is no pipe dream. There are still some very good people in this world, it just takes a little longer, sometimes a very long time to find that person, but keep believing and you will find that one someone, who will listen and not judge, who will share your dreams with you, encourage you to pursue them, they will be your #1 fan and when you are lonely and feeling sad, they will be the one to turn that frown into a smile. They will accept you for who you are, and will see the best in you.

You must keep yourself open to possibilities. The only ones who win keep trying no matter what. I did not say it was easy and many times you must take the hits. The only way to get the bass ring is to reach for it, no matter how many times you reach and it is out of bounds. If you are a feeling person, you will have tears in your heart but only love can make it whole. The genuine kind of love that you need just for yourself is worth trying for even if you never make it. The journey will at least be more exciting and well, you just never know.

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In order to find that special someone, you have to be the same way. Are you ready to be vulnerable and honest with them?<br />
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Not that we need someone to complete us, we need someone to accept us completely...

you missed the entire point of the story

Well help me out, what am I missing? It's a wonderful piece, sorry that I didn't get it.

well for one thing its NOT about a romantic relationship- and i've already lost you there

i thought i had one, until i found out it was all a lie.<br />
I was so excited coz everyone else in my life has <br />
been so judgmental.

I am not talking about a relationship. No I have too many issues like self hate to be able to have a relationship with someone as hard as that is to say. Just friendship. A kindred soul to talk about these things. I have to somehow find a way to love myself before someone else can love me. Sad but true. Maybe the thing is some of us want intimacy so bad that once we do have it we don't know what to do with it and are afraid to commit. I have pondered on this paradox myself and I still don't have an answer. Maybe I am just doomed to never get anywhere in life no matter how much my heart wants me to. Hey at least I am honest about it.

I am not talking about a relationship. No I have too many issues like self hate to be able to have a relationship with someone as hard as that is to say. Just friendship. A kindred soul to talk about these things. I have to somehow find a way to love myself before someone else can love me. Sad but true. Maybe the thing is some of us want intimacy so bad that once we do have it we don't know what to do with it and are afraid to commit. I have pondered on this paradox myself and I still don't have an answer. Maybe I am just doomed to never get anywhere in life no matter how much my heart wants me to. Hey at least I am honest about it.

i thought i had found someone that i could be all of this with and was for a time. but, true to form, it was too much for him and he bailed like so many others have after making weak assed excuses. it figures.

I am crying right now. Your post is me to a T! All I ever wanted was someone to trust, to open up to and not feel ashamed to be my self, how underdeveloped it may be. We are the super sensitive ones who are so misunderstood. We live in a world where we are not allowed to be ourselves because we are not liked for how emotionally fragile we are. We are just supposed to be tough like everyone else. People like us are always afraid to open up to the wrong person or the wrong place because it could destroy us, but the right person and the right place that is loving and nurturing to us and we can grow into something so overwhelmingly powerful and so beautiful. I am an enneagram type 4, INFJ, triple Cancerian and I know all about this feeling. I have struggled and am still struggling. I don't know how much more I can take of this world to say so truthfully. We are the ultimate round peg in the square hole.

except it doesn't exist

exactly my point...it is an unobtainable goal....To expect it is to be dissapointed!

Is it not that best friend and soul mate, not necessarily the lover. who you need in your life.<br />
I thought I had that in my lover (spouse), and it turned out to be bad! over time I was ridiquled for my faults, and chastised for my mistakes. <br />
We all need that special someone who is there for us, thick or thin, good or bad...they don't judge us but are there to support us when we fail! We can tell tham anything, even our most secret of secrets and know that no one else will ever know!

but this is not about a romantic relationshp!!!

Stay positive and keep an open mind, Im looking for the same thing in my wife, try to visualize happiness thats what Im doing, in the hopes it will appear!

and one more who missed the point

apparently along with people who understand this story

I'm coming late to the party but awesome post! Someone to share hopes and dreams with who actually cares about what you are saying is a dream. Someone to hold and wake up next to. More dreams. :)

and another MORON who thinks i want a boyfirend <br />
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and when we are wet our most vulnerable is acatly when we need FREINDS not to kick us in the *** not to throw us to the wolves not to tell us we need to evelove grow mature or whatever but to BE THERE, COMFORT and HELP us <br />
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which is EXACTLY what this story was always about

i think that all of us are looking for this very person....someone who will trully love us, exactly the way we do.... i do not know whether we are going to get that special someone or not....all i know is that we must ensure that we are ready and capable to support what we are asking for!!! sometimes, i believe that we becoe weak because of the rough times we faced, and instead of reacting and improvng ourselves, we just expect others to do it on our behalf...that is why we tend to have unfair intimate relationships...if we look deeply inside us, we will see our own defaults and understand the reasons we attract the same kind of situations and people, over and over again!!!!! it is for us to overcome our fears, and evolve, grow as individuals....so more matured and open hearted people will want us next to them...no one wants a load of another human...they all want someone capable to become a good friend or companion..... search inside you, and understand what you do wrong....why you choose wrong people....it may be because your need for contact and love, puts your criteria down....do not hurry.....i am not sure whether i hepled, but that is exactly what i say to myself....because i am also feeling lonely, abandoned and betrayed....good luck..... :-)

exactly this is about FREINDSHIP NOTHING MORE but lets face it guys think with a certain part of their anatomy and it isn't their brain

I like this post. It best describe how I feel. Just one...just one friend. Romantic or not. A friend you are talking in your post.

and your point is

no your talking about how frendship leads to romance marriage sex dating all things i will never want