Married Without Intimacy Is Worse Than Being Single

Being married without emotional intimacy is worse than being single. I feel isolated and alone. I am an empath, and need that emotional connection and being deprived of it makes me feel so lifeless. I am a very giving loving person & feeling no emotion or love from the one I am married to makes me feel ill & very unhappy. 
My right to search or be with someone who gives the kind of affection I need is taken away, and knowing it is out there leaves one yearning for something we cannot have. 
nurseangel44 nurseangel44
41-45, F
1 Response Jan 2, 2013

I totally know what you mean. I'm also and empath and have been having a difficult time with my husband lately. Not only is he not affectionate, but he is also an energy vampire. So it is really difficult to be around him. It is really lonely sometimes. I am really hungry for affection so I can relate to you. You are not alone in how you feel. Sending a hug.

Since writing this, I have told my husband that I want a divorce. We are now separated (although still in the same house). I do have a special friend that I have become close to here on EP and it does help a lot. It is nice knowing that someone out there finds me attractive and is glad I'm alive. I only wish he lived closer and not on the other side of the world.

But I do miss touching and kissing.

How are you doing now? Are you still in the same situation or is it getting better?

I am getting ready for work, but I will respond later tonight. I would love to talk more, it has been a while since I have been on.
I am still married, although we have addressed many of the issues only after I left for months, I think it realized how much I did for him. It does seem more attentive although not as much as I would like, but it is getting better. Being open with him and making him listen to me and not taking silence as an answer has helped a lot. I am finding myself and doing more for me and making positive changes in my life and not worrying what he or anyone thinks, for this is my life and I will live it my way.. This is my new frame of mind!

I am glad you are finding some peace with someone, and if it is meant to be, so it shall.

Food for you taking care of yourself. It is your life and you do deserve to live it the way you want. :)