All Over The Place...I am a mom with a 3 year-old. I had an incipient career but then had the rug pulled out from underneath me, and lost my stability, my friends and income.
I ended up moving and my husband found a job in a city 4 hours away. I have been here one year and have been unable to find a job. I have no friends here to speak of. I have tried making female friends, to no avail. The only people that will give me the time of day are men with less than honorable intentions. This is a very close-minded community, and I am one of the few foreign-born people around. It is also clearly divided along racial lines and I am neither caucasian nor African American.
To make matters worse, my husband works Monday through Saturday and come Sunday all he wants to do is collapse on the couch and watch football. He does nothing with our son. Never takes us out. I haven't been on a date in over one year. I have to resort to taking my son out on "dates"...we are often seen at the zoo together, the movies, and even having dinner out Friday night as a "couple" or family might. I am very lonely and I crave adult companionship and conversation. Obviously I don't want to cheat on my husband, but I am soooo emotionally deprived (there's no romance, hardly no sex). I don't think I am being unreasonable. I know men hate it when women complain, whine etc. but I have told him how important it would be to me for him to take the time to romance me a little bit. Just take me to the movies once a month or something,
I have a few great friends but they live very far away, different parts of the country. We text everyday and it helps some, but there's nothing like "live" human interaction and connection.
My family is great, but they live 5,000 miles away. Any suggestions? Sorry if I sound like a downer. I'm usually not, but loneliness can play some sick jokes on you. xx
colibri901 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 Dec 8, 2012