When to Pack Up and Leave.

I have children and my marriage is over.  Let's just call it "Financial Infidelity."  I have no desire to move forward and be vulnerable to this man that takes great risks with my future and my children's future.  (He is not a gambler, but he likens himself an entrepreneur.) 

I am claiming bankruptcy and will move in with family with my children. 

If I claim bankruptcy, I lose my house and the home I've made with my children.  It is killing me to think of it.  Of being dependent on family even for a short time.  I feel like a complete failure as a parent and a provider of basic shelter for my kids.  I want to desperately move on to my own place...but the pit stop to save up money by living with my family is keeping me from taking real steps forward.  He also threatens to keep me from giving up the house because of equitable distribution.  Not sure how that will work.

If I hold off for as long as possible, hoping he can save the house and take it out of my name.  I will have to live with him...he will stay in his office...not really we just end up living like nothing has really happened and try to remain "normal" for the kids.  And I will delay saving money for me to live on my own, but if he can save the house, then I can obtain a larger sum of money from equitable distribution.  I don't know if I am just grasping at straws.  I know I have to go.  I know how to go.  I just can't seem to do it?

Or I can stay with him and try to work out our marriage AGAIN.  And never have peace of mind...EVER.  Not really an option at all.

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1 Response Apr 22, 2008

I'm sorry that you are having a rough time. I hope you will be able to hold out for the equitable distribution. I don't know how much you will get, but hopefully it will be enough so you won't have to stay with family for as long.