My Kids Are Out Of Control!
I am a happily married mother of four! I have 11 year old twin boys, a 5 year old daughter, and a two year old boy! And I have my hands full! Honestly I am a little overwhelmed, How does one control thier children? I've been working on it for 11 years now! I have a set of house rules posted on the wall and I recite them often but they don't listen, my kids are pretty much out of control and any good advice would be appreciated.
One of the rules posted on the wall is no climbing on the furniture, counters, structure of the house or deck, and the rule is followed by go to the park or climb a hill! But they don't listen not one! No they don't like to use the floor, my twins would rather walk across the couches and now the zippers are all broken on the cousions, then pass through a dividing wall between the living room and kitchen and walk across the kitchen table!!! It's driving me crazy! I do point out and say "Use the floor! Do not walk on the couches, No! don't climb over the dividing wall, and have put them in the corner for walking across the table! A minute for each number according to their ages, 2 minutes for the two year old 5 minutes for the 5 year old and 11 minutes or more for the 11 year olds depending on how severe the offence was or if they were whining in the corner.
We have a trampoline in the back yard but they distroyed the net last fall, and still jump on the beds, there's a spring pointing out on my side of the bed and yes I have flipped the mattress but sheesh!!! I know I must stay on top of them but I am and they refuse to comply and do it when I'm not looking they have no self control! I know that I have to repeat myself until the day they move out! I just want to make sure that I've nurtured them and served them well, so that they will grow up to be well rounded healthy and happy individuals. I really tell them not to walk on the furniture and as I have been writing this I've had to remind one of the twins twice not to walk on the couches! Blaaaah!
I am so afraid to take them out in public, every two weeks my husband and I take our 4 children to the grocery store to do some shopping, and our two year old refuses to sit in the cart. It takes two adults to sit him down! As he makes his body straight as a board one holds his legs and pulls them through the leg opening in the cart while the other one holds him up! During this he'll have a tantrum and wiggle his way out of the seatbelt and stand up again and again, we get so exhausted with him and his fits that we let him out because he certainly isn't going to sit and I really don't want him to fall out of the shopping cart either he could really injure himself. The seatbelts and a belt from home to tie him to the shopping cart doesn't work either, and I think it's illegal to leave them in the van lol!
So my husband will do the grocery shop while I chase the kids around the store!!! I cannot take my eye's off of them for a second because then my little one will run, and I've tried to get the twins to help me, but my little one does not like them and will have a tantrum and bang his head on the hard floor. Plus he thinks that it's a game but it's not I'm worn out! I hate grocery shopping but I have to go and pick up my husband on payday because we only have one vehical! I don't have a baby sitter nor will any family watch them! So they have to come to the grocery store with us. It's very embarassing, the older ones might run off to the toy section and my daughter even though she's not as bad might or might not run off, but she needs to stay by my side too. How do I get them to stay by my side in the grocery store, I have tried getting the two year old with pushing the cart until he's bored, I've even tried to involve them in helping with the grocery shop too but they went over board and we ended up with two full shopping cart,s too much! I do say stay by my side and don't run away, they slip their hands out of mine when I try to hold their hands, it's insane really I've tried everything! We've even left the twins at home and just took the two younger ones, it's less to chase but it's still dificult.
My youngest one is a runner! He has run out of the bank, he'll run out of the grocery store, out of the vet's office, out of any store that we go to he will run! And I'm so scared that he'll run out into the parking lot and get run over!!!! My mom said that there were many times when she took me and left the shopping cart behind and just went home, but we do need those groceries, and If I just took them myself to sit in the van there will be screaming and fighting and the twins will sneak out and run into the store! I don't know how on top of them cause I am I have to be???
So because I'm having such a difficult time with my youngest one I have been taking him for walks outside playing games such as follow the leader and redlight greenlight. It's not working I'm trying these games to train him to listen and to stop on command, I've just started and yes he's running away and won't hold my hand. I'm pooped out but won't give up, that's not an option lol! But does anyone know what I'm going through, did anyone find a solution to what works? I'm tired of all of the dirty looks, and I'm thinking of getting a leash!