Stress And Fustration

I am 18 years old, and although i does always do my best and i also pass my exams trying to make family proud but yet they always giving me a hard time. It is my parents and my elder brother i resided with. I have got a Job and it is the whole week i have been working and helping my Parents with the household with the salary. Obviously I am human and i need to have time for my self but my parents does always get on like if i am a five year old always giving me a hard time. Anytime i am with my friends they keep calling and harassing me to come home now to do what nothing. They always pressure my life and when i talk about it they does want to curse and argue with me. I try alot just to keep them together and happy but they just don`t want to see me happy, they ruin my happiness from young. :( I need help please because they does get on with me like i is nothing and have me like a prisoner sometimes i feel like walking out of my life i cant live like this anymore :/ Before its too late somebody, anybody out there please me out :'(
intoxicwo intoxicwo
18-21
2 Responses Dec 9, 2012

EITHER YOUR FAMILY IS PUSHING YOU HARDER THAN YOU NEED THEM TO BECAUSE THEY EXPECT MORE FROM YOU OR THEY ARE REALLY CRUEL AND YOU NEED TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL EACH TIME THEY CURSE AT YOU, EACH TIME YOU ARE OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND THEY CALL U TO COME HOME. TELL THEM YOU WANT TO PLEASE THEM BUT THEY TO NEED TO RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU DO AND HAVE DONE EVEN IF ITS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR THEM. TELL THEM ITS NOT YOUR BEST OR YOUR WORST AND YOU MUST ALL COMPROMISE, COME TO AN UNDERSTANDING. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY...GOOD LUCK.

Sounds to me your family might be dependent upon you to bring certain things into your home. The way they act/ treat you may be a way to ensure that they will have what they need from you or what they think they need from you. It's important to do things that make you happy even if it makes the people you love sad angry or upset. My advice to you does include talking to them. I'm sure you've made attempts. If your attempts fail, do what you feel is in your best interest. Some people don't change, some people need a forced change in order to make a change for themselves. So all in all, you seem intelligent and caring enough about yourself and your family but you seem torn between your happiness and yours. Do what's in your best interest when all else fails. Hope that this shines light on your situation.