Unhappy In My Marriage.

I got married 6 years ago to a lovely guy who was my friend, we are both members of the same church, we never had sex before marriage although we had both been intimate with ex girlfriends/boyfriends before we met each other. I got married because I thought I loved him but I think I confused friendship love with romantic love....I got really hurt in a previous relationship and did not feel like I could cope with having many more relationships, then I met my husband and we became good friends. I wasn't attracted to him physically but I didn't think he was ugly or anything, and I thought that being attracted to his personality was more important. We have had a rocky 6 years with highs and lows, we have a beautiful daughter who is 3. My husband is a great dad and there are so many nice things about him but I just don't love him in that passionate way. I hate having sex with him and have never once enjoyed it. I thought it would get better has time went on but it isn't and now I am starting to be very attracted to other men. What should I do? I don't want to ruin my daughters life or cause her lots of hurt. We have tried counselling and nothing is making me more attracted to him. Do I split up with him and risk everything for the dream of meeting someone who I will feel passionate about?
sayraar sayraar
26-30, F
1 Response Jul 15, 2010

This might be more about expectations because it sounds like you made up your mind and are looking for someone to affirm what you want to hear. I found this quote that is great "Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her." — Stephen R. Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) <br />
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However I don't believe in staying together for the sake of the child. Eventually they will see the truth and other issues develop. It's a double edge sward.