My father who has been in and out of my life has recently just tried to get in contact with me after five years of no contact (this is the longest he has went without contact). He said that he has cleaned his life up and wants to be in my life again but I don't know if I should give him another shot or not. He has said before that he wants to be in my life but continues to leave and when he writes his letter to me they make me feel like a bad daughter for not wanting him in my life so I don't get hurt again. I had finally accepted the fact that he wasn't going to be a part of my life when he wanted back in. So I don't know what to do right now because every time I think about the situation it just makes me cry and I haven't decided what to do.
rakegood rakegood
18-21, F
5 Responses Jan 18, 2013

May I make another suggestion ?

Well I suggest that you write to your father...and suggest that he join AA while in prison.

And get a sponsor. Do written step work. And when he is five years sober you will listen.

That actually sounds like a great idea. I didn't even think to do that. Thank you for helping me.

Has he gone to AA, got sober and stayed sober ?

No I think the only reason he got sober is because he is in jail right now.

Was your father an addict ( booze, drugs, work, sex, gambling , stealing ) ?

Yes he was a very heavy drinker.

are you venting here.....or asking for advice ?

Both I guess.