I Love How Infectious Positive People Are

This is important for everyone, I think.  I'm not talking about false bravado, either, but people who really feel confident inside themselves.  Being around such individuals somehow lightens the load and makes everyone feel better, wouldn't you say?

I think of myself as a positive person, here in EP.  Most of the time, even if my story isn't all that bright or inspiring, I still try to see the glass as half-full.  Dealing with many of life's issues takes just a dose of common sense.  

If there is something that bothers me immensely, which I cannot control, I'll burn and stew and steam until it gets off my chest.  I am far more likely, though, to follow the Serenity Prayer's example:  "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

However, I've gotten a bit off course.  Being around positive people/positive thinkers causes my load to feel lighter for a while.  It isn't lighter at all, of course, I'm just infected by my positive companion's aura, so I don't notice the burden I carry so much.  And, if I discuss what's happened lately, my companion is usually able to point out a more efficient way to pack my bag, that helps distribute the weight better and make the trek easier to continue.

Many a time, I will discover a positive influence in a 'teacher (who does not have to literally be one)' or mentor, but not always.  My own daughter, only five-years-old at the time of this writing, is a constant bundle of positive energy, most of the time, which is so wonderful.  Of course, I'd love being around her anyway.  I reckon we probably 'infect' one another's positive moods.

But a friend, or even casual acquaintance, can also prove to be a positive influence.  It sometimes takes a small gesture to make my day feel brighter, and more worth living.

UnderEli UnderEli
46-50, M
7 Responses Jul 10, 2009

Eli, Good for you being happy with your decision. You have your day off!!!<br />
It seems to me being paid "under the table" - tax free - is not the ethical choice.<br />
Less money - time off - use it wisely. If this is the standard of principle you have set for yourself more power to you.

Thank-you for your comment. It's hard to know how to deal with negative people. I, too, like being up-beat and being able to face each new day. I'm one of those people who's had the wind knocked out of him one too many times, though, and can become cynical easily. While I do my best to keep up a positive appearance, which I hope will affect others in a good way, it's always easier when someone else is equally positive. The way it rubs off feels a lot better, doesn't it?<br />
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I'm sorry about how your parents leave you feeling. Believe me, you are still a worthwhile person, regardless of how old you are. <br />
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It's ironic for me to comment on this story again, so long after having written it. Lately I've had problems with my employer not wanting to pay me overtime for extra work he asked me to do. Rather, he wanted to pay me under the table, but only at my usual wage. I wasn't feeling good about the situation, and finally called him tonight and said I wanted to be paid overtime instead. His response was to cancel the extra work rather than pay the overtime. We both made a choice, but I feel so strongly that I have made the right decision. I'm doing what's positive for me, and I know it will affect my attitude towards others in a positive way. Even though I won't get the extra work, I get my regular Monday off again, too.

I love being up-beat, hopeful and ready to face each day!! I absotutely agree! I get dragged down by others who gripe, complain and see the worst possible outcome - no matter what the circumstance!<br />
Some people are just like that. It is terribly pathetic to see people you love or know who truly are blessed and can not recognize it!<br />
Stay happy!!! Today is all you have. Live each day like this and you'll be great!!!<br />
Thank you for letting me share. I have parents in their 80's and I am so grateful they are living and healthy, but after a day with them you would believe life was not worth living!!! <br />
I really needed this boost!! I needed to know myself at 48 I can still break free of their negetivity.

Thank-you for reading it, SweetAppleBlossom, and for your positive feedback.

great story, undereli! *two thumbs up*

Those energy vampires are the pits. I'm sorry to hear you've been struggling. It can be hard to keep upbeat without more positive people and experiences to help give you a boost. Try little positive things, perhaps, like going for a walk, or treating yourself to a fun movie.

Great story Eli. And I totally agree with you. Being around positive people really can not only help you feel better but to change your perspective.<br />
A good reminder for me too. Lately I'm been thinking about how many "energy vampires" I have in my life. Changes are needed for sure.