I Really Need This....

u will find , i'm sure there r many ppl want someone like u to be in their life :)

Anytime you want to talk text me

you're definitely not alone. I lost my mother at 18, my father moved on within a year with an alcoholic who i can't get along with so i rarely speak to him or see him. my brother live 1000 miles away and all my friends from school have gone their own way. All i have is my grandmother and my boyfriend but inside I always feel empty. You just have to hang in there because when things are so bad, what other direction is there but up.

Oh! what a bad luck me and you have in common! Please just be friend of mine and change the situation, right!!

I feel your pain. I do have friends but sometimes I feel isolated and alone. Feel free to add me to your circle.....anyone who reads this can.

well well well, after all these responses, can you believe that you are the only lonely person out there? Lonely people aren't so lonely after all. No shame in sharing your feelings, we're all respectful here.

Ur story is my story maybe we could talk sometime.

I can relate. It's really hard for me to get close to People so I don't have any friends or really any family members that I'm close with. I'm very envious of people that have best friends that they can call when their upset. I can't even share things with my sister, the one person i should be able to tell anything. so here I am on EP sharing my problems with strangers.

I am sorry you are lonely. My husband just left me so I can relate to this. Please feel free to contact me.

Jenni, I really understand what you feel. I'm in the same situation. I didn't know how to help unless I realised that maybe just saying it will make you feel less lonely. Then I read everything that other people have written to you, and I would like to thank you for writing about this, because, these answers have helped me too.
One last thing: I think it's nice to be able to share feelings on the net and have people who care react about them. The Experience Project is great for that purpose. But this won't replace any REAL connection - people you can meet up with, look in the eye when you talk to them, hug and get hugs from. People who will help you when your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere or when you need to move out of your flat. People YOU can help, and get a feel-good return from. The feeling that you belong in a group, that you can't just disappear without anyone missing you.
Life feels so daunting without a friends' network. Like you, I used to think that I had it, mostly through my relatives, but now things have greatly changed and I don't know who I can turn to.
What we need to do is reach out, push our limits, get in touch with people that can be part of our lives in a non-virtual way. It's hard to begin with, but I don't think there's an other option.
Good luck! Take care.

You, just like everyone else, crave affection and acceptance, but life, just as it has for me, has placed you on the outside looking in, never experiencing a hug or any other kind of affection, never ever being a part of what we see others enjoying.

In my case, I've been alone since birth, this has conditioned me into accepting my lot, it's not the best place to be, it would have been lovely to have been a part of things, but at 65, I fear my chances of things ever changing have all passed.

I do things for people, in this way I get to be appreciated for the time I'm with them, and although this is small crumbs, it's better than nothing, so maybe you need to give of yourself to get what you want????

I believe loneliness is a state of mind, get yourself busy, fill your mind with things you have to do, involve yourself with others, even if it's fleeting, it's got to be better than living in solitary.

Life is full of ups and downs...
Lights and Dark...
Good and Bad...

Like a coin...
It's Heads and Tails.

You can't spend just the "Good" side of the coin...

Your choice is not Good Or Bad...
Up or Down.

Your Choice is whether you spend your coin....
And take the rollercoaster ride...
Or sit in the car going nowhere...
on flat ground where it's safe.

I say....
Grab the Coin and Invest in Yourself!

P.S.
I don't know how to add you as a friend or add you to my circle....
But I would be ever so glad if you were.

P.P.S
Dizordot....means...
This or that....
Life is about choices!

Hey jenni... I know how u feel. I've been there and when I felt that way, I would reach out to others by telling them how I felt and even send out positive thoughts and prayers for those people.
Do u have hobbies and/or interests?
Are there groups, clubs, etc. for your interest?
I have met some very wonderful people like that...and in fact, went to a really helpful and positive meeting last night.
I told myself to "get outta my comfort zone" and just go. And that I did!
Anyways, I hope my comment helped.
I am here if you still need a friend!
Chris

Almost 13,000 people have read your post! I think that's great! I feel a connection to you, I'm not sure why, but I do appreciate your honesty, I have read your blog. I also am dealing with the pain of loneliness and of having a mother who is not loving. It is not easy to keep confidence when you have a mother who is not proud of you, I know! I have dealt with rejection and abandonment all of my life. I've wound up in my own little shell, all by myself. I have read all of the responses here and have found some of them to be very helpful. I hope you have as well. You are welcome to be my friend, I would be so happy to hear back from you, anytime. Maybe we could help each other. God Bless, transistic

There is a website called family wanted. The lady that runs it had dealt with the same thing, as have I. Maybe they could help you.

I was the same and then I realized I had that person in my ex boyfriend's mother. I felt guilty at first, wanting her as my mother rather than my own mother. Some people dont have a mother at all and would see me being ungrateful and cruel. It had always bothered me what people would think if i turned my back on my mother who had never put anyone first herself. She is a master at disguising her sociopathic behaviour using her money, alcohol, cooking and entertaining sarcasm to buy friends and influence people. Her tall stories became taller over time about her 'terrible' children and health issues. I realized my guilt was a waste of my energy - energy I was already depleted of from trying to fulfill the expectations of. This person who gave birth to me had been slowly choking me ever since I could remember. I've been living with chronic fatigue for nearly 35 years and more recently diagnosed with fybromyalgia. I began to see the relationship between her behaviour and my health issues. Why should I deny myself a full relationship with a person who loves me like a morher should love and support her daughter and values me as I do her. She already knew all about my woes with my family dis-connectedness so I asked her if she could be my mother figure... And she said yes!
I don't have contact with my real family any more and I no longer feel guilty. I have supportive friends and my new family around me and I couldn't be happier. The only weird thing now is explaining my connection to the family to my ex boyfriend's girlfriends as they come along. We are ok with it and quite frankly we are better at being siblings than boyfriend and girlfriend!! LOL
I love my new mum and do what I can to help her around her home as her arthritis limits her and we catch up over coffee every week and share books and videos on our many common interests.
I hope this helps you. Cheers

I'd like to be your friend. I've felt this way most all of my life, for the most part its never bothered me being alone,yet there are times I've felt it would be nice to have a friend. Seems I've thrown myself into my work never things of much else it would be nice to change a bit of that.

hey...don't feel upset. you just need to make some friends. I can be your friend if you don't have any problem :). I think, everyone is unique and has some great skills/talents to be explored. Just find out what you're great in and you will nevel feel alone/dejected. Be feel free to contact me directly

Enjoy your life.

hi Jenni can we be friends?

Dear Jenni,
Why not you try to talk to people first. When you open your mouth, people would mostly respond to you. Try to observe what individuals are interested in. For instance, if they are interested in a certain game, you should try to obtain some knowledge on that particular game. Then, you can easily strike up conversations them.
If you are only interested in whatever you already know, make a deeper study on it, then look for the same category of people to talk with. Guarantee that you'll not be lonely anymore. If you can't get, then look for me.

Jenni, life is hard. Sometimes you just need to talk to people. Online, you can be whoever you want until you find someone you want to be. You can talk to me about anything you want, I won't find anything you need to talk about weird.

Honey, you are not alone. Sorry, this is getting to you late, by me. I have a husband, but that is all I have. I do have 2 girls, who were taken from us & then adopted by the foster parents. I still love my girls very much. I know what it is not to have family that you can't to talk to, because I feel the same way, other than my husband. If you still want, I can be your "auntie". And if you ever need anyone to talk to, I can be that someone. My regular email is walk.susan@yahoo.com, if you need to talk more. I'm also on Facebook under Susan Walk from Bellefonte, PA. You can call me Aunt Susie, if you want. You could be the "daughter" or "niece" I always wanted. Sounds corny, doesn't it? Well, hope you did have a nice holiday. Hope 2013 be the best year for you. Auntie Susie

If it helps, I'm in a relationship that when we are together, she's never here. She's always in Facebook. I feel that spiritual and human connection yearning to be fulfilled in me, that spirit of adventure just ready to go for a hike, or explore the world, seize the day. But instead? I'm confined to the quarters of my apartment, worrying about the world as it passes by, and whether I'm staying fit, young, chic, and attractive enough to keep her, and not able to do a thing about any of it. Because ....
The need for fulfillment of love. The shoulder to cry on. I hope this helped. It helped me.

Loneliness sucks. I understand exactly your situation but here's something I hope you understand. I have parents, 4 siblings and a huge extended family but growing up I felt lonely. After 15 years of marriage and 4 kids, I still feel lonely. I can't explain why but I just do. I wish to abolish loneliness from everyone. Message me through my profile if you'd like.

I am sorry I forgot to leave my contact information , darcauswings@aol.com .

Hi Jenni , I am sorry about what you are dealing with , maybe I can help you , so you can email me if you like .

Jenni, sometimes you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. It doesn't matter how many friends you have but what matters is how many of them will be there for you when you need them. Sometimes just one friend is more than enough.

Have you thought about keeping a pet? Having a pet will help you learn a lot about yourself. Trust me on this... I have three dogs, I've had pets all my life ranging from rabbits to birds. You'll be surprised at what you can learn from a mere animal. Maybe when you see a living creature dependent on you for everything you will feel a deep sense of worth.

Seems to me with all the replies that you recieved you do have friends and people who listen. A new day always turns over a new leaf or a new perspective on how we look at life.

Those who do not have anyone in their lives for moral support are sometimes the ones to inspire the most. Sometimes a greater purpose for who you are is just around the corner. Don't stop writing and don't ever stop being yourself.

https://twitter.com/Eloenchanto

Jenni, my mom told me once that if you want to make a friend you have to be a friend. I've always been a loner and then I met a flamboyant girl who became my best friend. We are poles apart but we've been close like sisters. I don't have many friends but I reached out to people I chose to have in my life. I don't know the extent of your problems and we all have our share... but if you really feel like you want to talk about it shoot me a mail on here and we can exchange emails and keep in touch. I'll be happy to help out if I can. Hang in there... the trick it to love yourself and be confident about who you are and it all falls into place.