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Need A Friend And Someone To Talk To

I am thirty three and am living with and caring for my eighty two year old grandma mainly on my own. I love her deeply but some days it is just to much. I am not one to go out much but now it seems i never get to go out with out a timelimit and that is very seldom. She is mostly blind so i do all the cooking and cleaning. I admit i am not a clean person but i am trying but the pressure to keep it like she demands is getting to me.

On top of all of this I have a brother twenty seven who is a drug addict and alchoholic and is constantly pushing everyones buttons. He stays for the most parents. There is not mutch we can do with him he has went too thirrteen rehabs in the last fifteen years. We kick him out and he always ends up coming back. the law is useless they told us to get a restraining order and when we did a few years back they came and threatened to arrest us for letting him on the property.

this all dose not help my dad who is a vietnam vet and has bad ptsd he gets all stressed out and it scares me. He is getting help from veterans but i dont know if it will ever help unless something changes with my brother. My mom tries to handle and understand all of this but she is so stressed that I am starting to wonder how much more she can take.

i try to hadle both houses and help and understand it all but feel like i am going to lose it soon. I need someone to talk to who wont judge or put me down like my family dose. I hope i find that here
thenewestdaughter thenewestdaughter 31-35, F 3 Responses May 4, 2012

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I think you will find many friends here on EP. I think you will also find many that are living the same situation that you are. Kudos to you for being there for your grandmother and other family members. Alot of yound adults are too tied up in their own lives to remember to take care of those that cared for them. Sounds to me as though your brother needs to learn by your example and grow up and share some of the responsibility.

I am not in here on a daily basis, but if you would like to message me some time, feel free to do so, I will eventually get it and respond.

Good luck to you and your grandmother.



JAM

Very sorry about what you are dealing and you will find many people to talk w/here on EP.

Keep writing stories,people will comment on them and eventually you will just end up w/many people that will be supportive and friendly.

Hang in there time has a way of working things,if you can endure.Easier said than done but possible

Thank you for your story,msg me if you would like to talk.My name is Rob.

Why would anyone judge you? My brother, luckily, is in jail and they are putting him through drug rehab. Hope you can hang on through the rough part. I know there has to be better days coming. There HAS to be. :)

my family thinks that we should just man up and tell my brother no and kick him out. Yeah i would like to see them try. I am glad that someone other than me sees itas a good thing that thier brother is in Jail. I wish many days they would take him back