How Many Times Is Too Many?

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Every few months he freaks out and says that our relationship isn't working or he doesn't feel in love anymore. My heart breaks every time, I cry, I mourn and then a couple weeks later he comes back and is completely romantic and says that he made a mistake. I always end up going back to him. This cycle has been going on since the dawn of our relationship.

He has this theory that if a relationship doesn't "feel" right and happen naturally, that it isn't meant to be. I think that if a relationship doesn't feel right, you need to talk, find a compromise and work through the issue. Anything worth having is worth working for.

He decided he doesn't want to be with me yet AGAIN. This time I am thinking to myself...can I keep doing this? He never TALKS to me when he is upset about something, he just DUMPS me.

I am developing some seriously low self-esteem. I know he will come back around, but I need to make a decision: Can I keep letting him yank me around like this?

The answer may seem simple, but I love him with my whole self, and that really complicates things.

devilsfood devilsfood
22-25, F
1 Response May 20, 2012

I been married 42 years and sometimes it doesn't "Feel Right". I think he's playing control games with you. Show him the door.

I did it, I broke it off with him for good. It is the most painful thing I have ever gone through, but I am really going to live with the hope that I made the right choice.

Good Luck to you. There are alot of people on this site that wish they could go back to their younger days and make the choice you just made.

There is and old saying You need to close that door before you open a new one.
Wharever LOL