My Army Boyfriend Is Pushing Me Away

I've been dating my boyfriend for four months. He had enrolled in the army before I met him and he's leaving for boot camp in 6 weeks. Everything had been great so he asked me to stay with him until he gets out which is in 3 1/2 yrs. he moved in last month, my idea, I wanted to get to know him more before we made such a huge commitment. Three weeks ago he stopped having sex with me and when I asked him why he didn't want to he says " I don't know". I let it go but it bothers me and I've told him exactly how I feel and all he says is " I'm sorry it's my fault" I stay very active and I'm in great shape so I'm not sure what's going on... Last night, as the sex subject came up, he yelled at me asking me why sex was so important and that I had to stop " pestering" him about it. Today he said I was clingy and depressing and that I had changed. I don't think I've changed at all but him not wanting to be intimate has me insecure and I've been questioning the relationship. He admitted to me that he has been pushing me away on purpose because he doesn't want me to wait for him because I deserve someone by me. He asked me why he was so special that I wanted to wait so long for him and he also asked why I still loved him after him treating me like crap on purpose.. Which my answer was that I loved him. My said he was sorry and that he loved me and wanted the relationship to work out.
At this point, I'm not sure on what to do. Any advice would be extremely appreciated :) thanks!!!
Jaylia22 Jaylia22
26-30, F
1 Response Sep 8, 2012

Jaylia22 If this is for real, he was just there to use you. A young man that has just signed up for the military used you for his selfish own pleasure and never gave much thought for you and your feelings. Sorry that you have been used like this but you need to learn through life experiences. Vet your next man with a few questions before jumping into bed please..

Unfortunatly, this is for real. I've asked him to split up and he doesn't want to. He says he loves me and wants to marry me but yet he refuses to be intimate. He has even said that the more I ask for it the least he wants to. I'm so confused by his actions. He does a lot for me, helps me out around the house, cooks and cleans he even helps with my dog the only downside is he won't have sex with me..