Why Do I Think This

I trust my wife with all my heart, however since I've been in Afghanistan for some reason I keep thinking she has someone else. I know it's just my imagination but why do I get this feeling every day. Can anyone tell me why I feel this way.
Bretley Bretley
22-25, M
3 Responses Sep 9, 2012

Either your gut is telling you something or it's because you're letting your mind wander to the dark side.

It could be jealousy or intuition, but you have to assess if she has given you a reason to doubt her faithfulness. If not, you could always have a buddy or private eye check it out.

Hey man. <br />
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I've been deployed myself and I've experience that situation, plus taking a look at others' situation as well. <br />
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Now, ask yourself this: Why do I feel this way? Is it because of the stories I've overheard from others? Is it the way when I Skype with her, the way she seems 'drifted'? If she is with someone else, could I understand it OR could I respect myself enough to get better? Do I trust her? <br />
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And here is the BIG ONE:<br />
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Do I respect myself enough to deserve the best if she had (cheated)?<br />
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Do not lie to yourself to make it 'sound' like you are a good husband, that there is no need for a 'paranoia' way of thinking. Be honest with yourself. <br />
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Trust with all your Heart, but feel like she is with someone? Could be just your imagination but you have a feeling every day?<br />
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Be honest with yourself, I can not stress this enough. If you have doubts, ask yourself why. And then ask her. Talk to her about it.<br />
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Since you are deployed, talk to a Chaplain on your down time. Doesn't matter if you are or are not religious, but sometimes they give really good advice and helped me at times to where I needed to go.<br />
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It is a tough spot to be in but you are not alone. Remember that. Talk to your family. Talk to your friends (TRUE Friends, not acquaintess'[Sp?])<br />
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Above all else, respect yourself. Know your worth and don't go into this guns blazing pointing fingers. Breathe, talk with folks, find the Truth and talk it out.

Thanks man you gave me a lot to think about and I appreciate it honestly.