Lonely Also

Yeah, it can get to be a very lonely life. The wife passed away and now the only child has left for college. I guess since I am older I do not have the energy or confidence that I had when I was younger (not that I had that much confidence). Anyway, gettting old while being alone is not a lot of fun. It would be nice to have a real friend (someone with which to confide) and also someone to get out and do some things if not to spend time with just hanging out.
letsbefriendsok letsbefriendsok
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2 Responses Nov 25, 2012

The change has to come from you. It's not going to come to you. So, if you want change, take steps towards it. I know this is easier said than done, but you have to figure out how to do it. In my opinion, and this worked for me, I started exercising out of the house. Eventually I made friends and socialized more. It was like one thing led to the other. You have to take the first steps and see what works for you. But don't expect it to happen without some changes in your lifestyle.

I think you are exactly right. I have been thinking that lately and have taken some small steps to do just that. Thanks for the tip and the best to you!!!

I feel your pain. I am young but feel alone. My husband has sought other women instead of me. He tells me I work to much. But I have to! Who else is going to pay the bills? I am an old soul living with a man who refuses to grow up or man up to his responsibilities. I just don't know how to get him to see it how I do.

and I would say to you.....
Take a chance and get out there! Join a local group of people who has the same interests as you. Maybe you will find someone to hang out with or someone to fall in love with. You can do it!!

Treehugger77 is on the ball. You need to find new interests. There is a website called meetups. Google it. There are many different kinds of groups to get involved in. I joined a meditation group and love it. Check out what\'s in your area. Best of luck.