Something Changed

Thanks everyone for your advice in my previous subject about my work.
I really find all of your responses useful, and i feel very good knowing that there are people that can understand me, and talk to me. I have lots of people around me, family, best friends, siblings, boyfriend. And they all are a great support, great listeners, they all can give amazing advice. But you know, sometimes you want to talk to someone, who wouldn't want to go deeper, know more, just a stranger, that probably was in the same situation, who probably was right in the same place, where you re right now.. its very interesting actually. How sometimes talking to a stranger helps more, than talking to someone very close to you. Anyway..
What i wanted to discuss today, was that weird thing that happened to me recently. I noticed, that i started to listen to other people's opinions a little too much. And i've never been like this before. I don't know how it started, or when, or where, after what.. But it's like, for example regarding my work problems recently - if someone on one side disagrees with me, saying that i cannot quit my job, its a great opportunity blah blah blah, it calms me. But when suddenly someone else on the other side tells me something like no you should quit if you dont like something.. i immediately start thinking that way. My mood changes right away, i feel like yeahh..that person is right i guess...i mean, i feel like i cannot control it, i cannot stop at one thought and live with it. and it's been like this not only with work subject, but with almost everything. and it was never like this before. I used to be very strict. If i think something, there's nothing and nobody that can cahnge my mind. i dont know what is going on with me.
Why do you guys think this happens? I don't want to be like this. Maybe its because im in a place right now, where i myself, don't know what i want?
If so, is there anything you coulkd advice?
Samik123 Samik123
2 Responses Nov 26, 2012

You are correct. When you are confused or unsure, you are more susceptible to other people's opinions. People can give really bad advice that leave you in a worse situation than you were in before.

I have learned that it is best for me to think through things on my own and seek divine guidance. Once I am determined to do X or Y, I ask for advice on how to accomplish what I want not on whether you should do X or Y.

Your is not a play/movie for others to direct, which is why you will be happier if you make your own choices. I value seeking counsel, but it must be done with discretion and wisdom. When you are given advice whether it is requested or not, you should always consider the source.

Make your own choices because you have to live with them.

thank you, you are absolutely right!

Nothing is wrong with having strong convictions. That's an awesome quality. Being stubborn isn't. It's good that you're open to suggestion. My father told me at a young age, "That even the President or a King has advisors.". We all must be receptive to knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Only a fool thinks he or she knows it all. Discernment is key. At the end of the day, your choices are yours & yours alone. Remember that change will be constant in life.