Forgiveness...is It Really Possible?Lets think about this, I have been wrestling with the possibility of forgiveness. Is there anyone who really believe's that we can forgive? There is a couple of factors when it comes to forgiveness, one can you forgive the person who commits the act against you and two can you forgive yourself?
Can you forgive the person who commits the act against you? This can be a tough one for many reasons. Consider the reasonact that was commited against you, can you forgive that act and why? What is the commitment that is involved friendshiplover, does this have an effect of how you decide to forgive? Is there an unforgivable reason/act? Does the intensity of the relationship effect your decision between what is the right thing to do and what you should do? Seems that all these questions can cloud/confuse your judgement to do, what is necessary or right! I sometimes think that it is easier to forgive someone else other than yourself! Which leads into the next question.
Can you forgive yourself? This I think is the hardest decision! The infinite possibilities that arise, when you think of forgiving yourself. What did I do, that caused this to happen to me? What did i not do, that i could have done differently? Did I do something wrong? Why am I so unlovable? why does nobody like me? There are so many questions that come up depending on your situation and the act commited against you. What to do? How to decide? Is there anything, that makes this decision easier? The self pitty, that comes up on something like betral can completely devastate someone! You start to look at everything in your life self assessing everything. What about this about me? Or what's wrong with me? This has got to be the hardest part of forgiveness and the most necessary for moving forward. So what then? Sigh.............
So whats your take? Do you think that it is truely possible to forgive them/you? Or is the forgiveness for most just a falling away into forgetfulness? Is there any questions that I proposed that you found the answer too and how did you get to that point? And do we ever really forgive at all?
P.S. Thanks for the Ear!
inChange 41-45, M 55 Responses 21 Dec 5, 2012