Lost and Confused

I have made so many mistakes in my life.  I had the perfect man, he wanted to marry me, he made me laugh, he was handsome, and he had every intention of taking care of me for the rest of our lives, and I ruined it, cuz I told myself I didn't want a 'yes man', I kept telling myself I wanted a challenge.  Boy did I ever get one....He is happily married now, and no longer thinks of me I am sure, unfortunately there hasn't been a day in the last 2 years that I haven't thought about him in some way.  And go figure this...another man wants to marry me...but he is the absolute wrong man...he is terrible with money, he is selffish, hard to talk to, and just not what I am looking for....but did I mention, I am pregnant with his baby...At this point I have no hope for the future and I am lost on how I am going to get myself out of this situation with the current guy, I know I would rather be alone for the rest of my life then spend it with him, but I don't know how to tell him.  I am sure I sound pathetic, how dare I whine about my life...not one but two men wanted to marry me...I should thank my lucky stars...yeah well I don't see it that way. Please give me any advice...negative or positive... Thank you.

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1 Response Mar 10, 2009

the best thing you can do is tell him how you feel, no matter how hard it may be for you, but dont marry him!!! i mean many people say that in your situation, that you should marry the guy, for the sake of the kid, but thats not always true!!! if you stick with this guy, it sounds as though you will only end up arguing and fighting with one another and falling out on a daily basis, and thats not good for the kid, to be brought up like that!!! if you tell the guy the truth, then you can at least remain friends, and get along with one another and arrange visitting rights and so on!!! which would be better for the kid!!! you cant change what happened in the past,so dont beat yourself up about it!!! but you can prepare yourself for the future and learn from your mistakes in the past, and be the good mother to your child that i believe you will be!!!