Need Advice, Please!
I need someone to talk to right now. I have been having on going problems with my boyfriend. It just seems like issues that are important to me are not important to him. Like for instance our sex life. To me, it seems like we only have sex when he wants to, it is whenever he has time. I feel like we never have sex when I want to. I completely enjoy having sex with him, it just upsets that it always seems like it is on his terms. I am extremly upset right now, which is making me oversee the fact that we do have sex when I want to (sometimes). However, it just seems more often than not, it is when it is convenient for him. For example, we were just hanging around the house this afternoon spending our Sunday at home. We ended up taking a nap. When we woke up I mentioned sex. He looked at me and said "You want to have sex right now?". I did not say a word to him after that, what he had just said totally hurt my feelings. I don't want a boyfriend who is going to say that as soon as I mention having sex. I want a boyfriend who will want to have sex with me when I want to have it and when he wants to have it (ideally this would be at the same time) When I hear a reaction like that from him, it just makes me fee completely rejected and honestly makes me feel like crap. I tried to express this to him and he just does not understand. Unfortunately, when he does understand the way I am feeling, that is when I begin yelling. That is one of my faults I am trying to work on. I don't ever intentionally want to start an argument. However, when I express my feelings to him and it seems like he doesn't care, it drives me INSANE. I know that there are things that I need to work on myself, but I also think that my boyfriend needs to be concerned with my feelings and my needs (as I try to do this for him as well). Does anyone have any suggestions/comments for me and how I should deal with this? I am asking for any help that I can get. Thanks you guys!