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Confused...

My boyfriend is in the Marine Corps and has already been to Iraq and Afghanistan. I wasn't with him at those times so I can't really grasp all the emotions and things that happen in his head or understand how I am suppose to take them. He is getting deployed to Okinawa, Japan for a yr in just a few days. He was home on a 30 day leave but ever since he got back it seems like he is pulling away from me. The first few days were normal but since then he hardly txts me even when I txt him, he hardly calls, when we actually do talk he tells me he loves me before we hang up and that does make me feel better but it is still stressful. He will miss my 21st birthday, our first thanksgiving, our first christmas, first new years and our 1 yr anniversary. He won't be home until next December. Just sometimes I get confused when he starts to act like the man I fell in love with then he shuts me out.  It's just so confusing; but then I turn to a friend of his (his friends wife) we email and she tells me thats how most of them act before they deploy so it will make it easier. That is just weird to me but I can understand. This is my first deployment but if anyone ever needs to talk just hit me up either on here or on aim @ srfangl4@aol.com
srfangl4 srfangl4 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 23, 2010

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Thanks everyone so much but when he called to tell me his flight date he told me he didnt want a girlfriend while he was deployed even though he loves me so right now we are just good friends who chat and keep in touch. He likes his camp in Oki and he's doing good but thank you everyone so much you all have been wounderful and i'll keep you updated!

I have been trying to understand the same things with my soldier. He still has until June before he deploys and still acts a bit odd at times. They get scared about leaving us at home and miss us just as much as we miss them. You just gotta let them go through the motions and feel what they feel. and trust that they care for you enough to be alright when they come home again

We will be on pretty much the same countdown next year. Want to join me? lol So, my wonderful boyfriend has decided that i'm "too perfect and get figure out whats wrong with me." uhg. Of course he sent me a text about that then went to bed. I honestly think these men get nervous about leaving us at home and end up acting a little crazy! Anyways, I'm here if you need to vent or just get your mind off things.

We will be on pretty much the same countdown next year. Want to join me? lol So, my wonderful boyfriend has decided that i'm "too perfect and get figure out whats wrong with me." uhg. Of course he sent me a text about that then went to bed. I honestly think these men get nervous about leaving us at home and end up acting a little crazy! Anyways, I'm here if you need to vent or just get your mind off things.

hey girl yeah, my husband is deployed to iraq right now and he acted the same way before leaving. They just have alot of stress to deal with before they go. The longer your with someone in the military you will learn that holidays dont matter lol. Chances are he will miss at least one holiday, birthday, or anniversay during the year. Even if he isnt deployed lol. Last year my husband missed a few. Just from being in the field. This year he will miss Halloween, thanksgiving, Our 1 year wedding ann. Xmas, Valentines day, St patricks day... lol you get the idea.....EVERY HOLIDAY. It sucks but you will get used to it. Im sure you will get to talk to him alot. Skype, or any type of web cam messanger really help :) and sending packages too! if you need anything im here :)

like i said girl im always here to talk.stay strong things will get better