Not Really In It

my husband have made some positive changes but my feelings have pretty much dissolved. the kids are happy, but I am not.
shallowdeep shallowdeep 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 13, 2012

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I am divorced, the best thing to happen since my boys grew up. Thje thing you need to think of is, do I REALLY want it. It is pretty irreversible, and you are on your own. If I could advise you, put out feelers first and be sure you are safe. Then tell your partner what is in your mind and set up a programme for dissengagement. If your partner is hostile, then just go about it at your own pace.

Just be certain because the hurt could be terrible for both of you,

thanks, and I agree with u. being on my own was hard but I was so much happier, but that happiness was for me. the kids weren't happy. as I said before, now they are. it's as if they feel more complete, now. maybe they do, so I jus sorta deal with the situation right now.

i am going trough something similar except that my husband is not listening to me..... that he needs to change and share more our responsibilities as a parents and couple, its been 3 years and I am afraid this will be the reason that will end our marriage.

thanks guys, I appreciate the sentiments. I am ok, just spending alot of time thinking about what I want, but what's best for the kids as well. sometimes I look at them and think maybe I've asked for too much. then I think about the verbal abuse, especially in front of my kids, and I think, heck no.....